Hey, girls! This is my first post. 'Mark does stuff' brought me here and I'm very glad to have discovered you. I have to admit, I read 50 shades when it was still a fic and it was still updating weekly. Don't judge, I was going through a very strange period of my life and was basically surviving on reading smut. Now I can't believe it's a bestseller (wtf?)and they sold tens of millions of copies (double WTF?!).The fact is, back then it made me curious about some things and about kink and it was pretty much a start point of research for me. It's strange looking back now, because I've been in a D/s relationship for two years now and this book and the dynamics between these two people are an insult to the lifestyle and to the community. A D/s relationship is meant to be CONSENSUAL. Christian claims he doesn't need to dominate Anna, but at the same time, he forces her unconsensually in a kind of total power exchange relationship. And she is too naive to see that she's being manipulated by an insecure idiot. He's not a Dominant, because Doms generally are people with extremely good self-management. They don't lash out at a drop of a pin, they are extremely careful and aim to fulfill a need the sub has. Whether is pain or being dominated psychologically, it depends on the sub. These things are discussed in advance and respected in the interactions. Okay, forgive my rant, the point of it was that yes, I read this and I completely hate the image they create on bdsm and the way it glorifies an abusive and codependent relationship.
Thanks for commenting and reading our posts! It's great to hear the perspective of those in the D/s community regarding this book. Ing and I only know what we've learned from research, but it was pretty obvious right off the bat that something was very wrong in this portrayal!
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