The Pink Pr0n Is Powerful

[oh_my_words]

First, two paragraphs of preface:

In the interest of my not having to waste keystrokes debating whether Sex Is Ebul, let me just say that this essay assumes ours to be a Sex-Negative culture, and that I will be taking a Sex-Positive tack. If you don't know what these terms mean, please to be following the above links to Wikipedia before reading

Comments

[okky_who]

Oh goodness, you are brilliant. I've been brooding about this lately -- how so many people say such hurtful things all the time about sex, or about people who like sex, or about people who like sex in "weird" ways. So of course I've been internalizing this sort of thing for my entire life, and only in the past few months have I even begun to grasp at the extent of the silencing that goes on about sexuality. I mean, even some of my closest friends (who are liberal in every other way) will say things about sex or sexuality that are, to me, the verbal equivalent of being shoved roughly out the door. And the worst thing is that I don't have any backup -- at least it's an obvious tenet of Liberalism that Being Gay Is Okay, and we have liberal politicians championing gay rights -- but when it comes to being kinky, which is as much a part of my sexuality as the fact that I sleep with women, I'm too paralyzed by ingrained fear that I can't even tell anyone (and of course I don't have any assurance that otherwise liberal people won't be freaked out or think things that I'm doing are Wrong). And no matter how free and open and amazing I feel now that I've allowed myself to explore, I can't even share the fact that anything has happened at all with any outsiders.

Except! The slash community, abstractly through fic, and I really don't know what I would have done without that support while I was a teenager and coming to terms with the fact that I'm queer and genderqueer, and now that I'm older and coming to terms with the fact that I have "deviant" sexual tastes. I haven't even gotten to know many other slashers personally, but just the fact that other people write stories where characters are gay and are still admirable people, and stories where characters have and love sex and are still admirable people, and stories where characters have and love incredibly kinky sex and are still admirable people, and that people enjoy and admire my stories where I depict the same...it's extremely affirming and empowering.

So yes. It is so important for us to keep writing slash. And now, if you don't mind, I'm going to write some more on that Doctor/Master fic I have going. You know the one. :D