If you make the choice, accept the responsibility
Why can't people fulfill the obligations of parenthood when they enter it?
Part of the definition of being a parent is loving your child. Not only loving your child, but loving your child unconditionally. In the past seven months, I have witnessed absolutely horrible parenting by two different couples through their children. When you become a parent, yes, things are difficult. Yes, the load can be a lot to bear. Yes, children can be nerve-wracking.
-However-
As a parent, you've accepted a responsibility. You don't get to stop supporting your children when it comes to their goals and choices. You don't get to be tired of them. You don't get to lose patience completely with them. You don't get to be done. Most importantly, you don't get to push them off onto someone else to deal with and you don't get to deliberately make them feel small and worthless.
If you have the desire to do any of these things, you should not be a parent. You aren't ready for that responsibility. In this case, adoption is the best road for you to take, for the sake of your child. To anyone who is/was mature enough to realize they're not ready for parenthood and takes/took this option, I applaud you and I am proud.
To those who didn't take this option, I think you are immature and a coward.
Part of the definition of being a parent is loving your child. Not only loving your child, but loving your child unconditionally. In the past seven months, I have witnessed absolutely horrible parenting by two different couples through their children. When you become a parent, yes, things are difficult. Yes, the load can be a lot to bear. Yes, children can be nerve-wracking.
-However-
As a parent, you've accepted a responsibility. You don't get to stop supporting your children when it comes to their goals and choices. You don't get to be tired of them. You don't get to lose patience completely with them. You don't get to be done. Most importantly, you don't get to push them off onto someone else to deal with and you don't get to deliberately make them feel small and worthless.
If you have the desire to do any of these things, you should not be a parent. You aren't ready for that responsibility. In this case, adoption is the best road for you to take, for the sake of your child. To anyone who is/was mature enough to realize they're not ready for parenthood and takes/took this option, I applaud you and I am proud.
To those who didn't take this option, I think you are immature and a coward.