Thinking....

[ocs_midnight]

So I'm sitting here just thinking about life. Yea, that seems to be what I'm doing a lot of, that and wishing things could change and that we could be together again. After a year of loving each other and caring for one another deeply she told me she didn't love me romantically anymore. I guess I just don't understand how that can be. How can you

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This is probably going to be long...sorry! heh

[ma_a_salama]

yes, i have to say that i do agree with your friend on certain aspects....but seeing as i kinda am in a "situation" myself i can look at the 2 angles. i know how you might feel (as far as switching back and forth from wanting to move on and then the next wanting to be with them again) but i also understand what your friend is saying. I can't say i completely agree though, because i don't know "her" and i don't know your history together. This whole thing is reminding me of the song Scars by papa roach. That song makes me so emo. You should listen to it. To me, at one time, it was like solace in a darkened world. yeah...on to the next thing.

"How can you love someone for over a year and then *poof* it's gone."
Again, i don't know her, but i'm going to try and look at it from her point of view and mesh it with my experiences. So, in no way am i saying she is right for vanishing on you, but i'm just trying to express a diff. way to look at it. #1)You're right, distance does have something to do with it. i mean if you were there you could develop a closer relationship by doing more things together and the person can't just leave you or stop talking to you whenever they feel like it because you're physically there all the time. And sometimes distance can be the strain on a relationship. Sometimes it feels like your relationship isn't going anywhere and the only way it could advance is if you actually could do more than just talk over the net or phone. Thats the scary thing (to me too!!), you can't control anything long distance. If they want to lose contact with you they can and there is nothing you can do about it. #2)As far as my situation goes, i would go back and forth...one day saying i love him and next day saying i don't. i don't neccessarily think that that is fair for me to do to him, but then again i have a reason for that. She may have had a reason also.

If there is one thing i've learned from him is that if you want to know something, then just flat out ask it. If you want to ask her "why did you stop loving me" or "why did you break my heart" or WHATEVER...just ask it. trust me, the relief you have afterwards (whether the answer was what you wanted to hear or not) is wonderful and at least you know the truth and you won't be feeling confused anymore. That honestly, i believe, is the best advice.

And yes, we most certainly will have to talk about our "people". I've got 2 questions for you though
1. Where did you meet her?
2. Where does she live?
oh yeah, and whats her name so i can stop calling her "her" lol

p.s. be sure to let me know when you get back so that we can go to the movies.

....and true said Murch(why do i always make up nicknames?), your an awesome guy. if she hurt you then she doesn't deserve you.