It's been a rollercoaster year, culminating this morning when Mum was diagnosed with breast cancer

[obsessionality]

Yeah

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[vikingprincess]

Oh, honey. Exhausting yourself and missing out on seeing your friends won't hurt your mom, and it will hurt you. When you're too tired to go, just don't. When you need to cry, do. All you can do - and I know, from when my mom was diagnosed - is give her what she wants, when she wants it, and be there for her as much as distance will allow.

I don't want to lecture or get all crazy on you - we just met, after all, and it literally makes no difference to your circumstances or your mom's to hear from me - but if there's anything you want to ask me, you should feel free to do that.

And try not to dream of murdering your dad and sis too often - it's super-tiring - but know that thinking of it once in a while can be cathartic.

EDIT: Others have said, and I HAVE to agree, that it's super-lucky this was caught so very early, and is so eminently treatable. If that second opinion says "Meh, nothing much," though, you may need to be the person who nags for a third opinion and some actual action.

Finally, don't let this overshadow your amazing academic achievements too much. (Yes, much easier said than done. But still.)