(no subject)
Rang Christal's counsellor and had a good talk to her about the whole thing and what to do next.
Rang the cops and talked to a detective who was really good with me and gave me the time to tell the story and not rush me.
We have been told not to talk about it now, in case we taint any verbal evidence that the kids give. I was thinking wow, this is a huge thing and we need to be seen to be doing something with this information. In their eyes, inactivity would sanction what the man did.
Told the kids that the cops have been informed and they seem to be content with that. I am flickering between anger and sadness....anger that, even though it was exposure and groping and not actual sex - he took some of their innocence away and he had no right to do that to my children....sadness because it happened and they have carried it with them for a year on their own. But also pride because they had the courage to speak out against the man and will hopefully bring justice for anyone else he has affected and protect any future victims.
We have to set up a plan of action for ourselves so that it brings order to our chaos that we have been thrown in. We need to work out the best thing to do if he comes to the house etc. He isnt likely to, as we havent seen them in ages but still the possibility is there.
Questions we need to address:
(brainstorms)
What to do if he turns up at the house?
What to do if his wife or stepkids turn up?
What to do if the kids start discussing what he did, when we arent to talk about it until they have been questioned.
What to do when he finds out who made the complaint against him.
What to do if we get persecuted by anyone for it.
Things to do to keep this from screwing us up with guilt, etc.
How to keep everyone on the right track so that we can come through this healthily. i.e. counselling
Setting up strategies for the kids after this is over so that it never happens again.
How to deal with the anger that everyone feels.
Rang the cops and talked to a detective who was really good with me and gave me the time to tell the story and not rush me.
We have been told not to talk about it now, in case we taint any verbal evidence that the kids give. I was thinking wow, this is a huge thing and we need to be seen to be doing something with this information. In their eyes, inactivity would sanction what the man did.
Told the kids that the cops have been informed and they seem to be content with that. I am flickering between anger and sadness....anger that, even though it was exposure and groping and not actual sex - he took some of their innocence away and he had no right to do that to my children....sadness because it happened and they have carried it with them for a year on their own. But also pride because they had the courage to speak out against the man and will hopefully bring justice for anyone else he has affected and protect any future victims.
We have to set up a plan of action for ourselves so that it brings order to our chaos that we have been thrown in. We need to work out the best thing to do if he comes to the house etc. He isnt likely to, as we havent seen them in ages but still the possibility is there.
Questions we need to address:
(brainstorms)
What to do if he turns up at the house?
What to do if his wife or stepkids turn up?
What to do if the kids start discussing what he did, when we arent to talk about it until they have been questioned.
What to do when he finds out who made the complaint against him.
What to do if we get persecuted by anyone for it.
Things to do to keep this from screwing us up with guilt, etc.
How to keep everyone on the right track so that we can come through this healthily. i.e. counselling
Setting up strategies for the kids after this is over so that it never happens again.
How to deal with the anger that everyone feels.