It is not up to me to save each and every person I know
Oh man, I have the superhero complex so bad. People talk about their problems, and I have an intense desire to fix them. If I don't fix them, I feel guilty *no matter what my sensible brain says*.
I am responsible for:
My own bills, admin, housework, shopping, self care, health, saftey. I am responsible for other people's stuff only when they pay me and only when I am well enough to do it.
I am not responsible for all of my friends' housework, admin, financial affairs and childcare even when they get into difficulties. I am not responsible for the safety of people in my therapy group.
I can choose to help people out, but I will remind myself that it is a choice.
I'm not well at the moment - I'm in quite a bit of pain from a weight-training injury that was completely avoidable. This means I can't help anyone at the moment... I'm not even available as a shoulder to cry on because I feel so bloody pathetic. I have to look after myself and nobody else right now, and it is bloody hard. I've asked people to help me lately, and that is a hard thing to do.
I'm going to keep listing what I'm responsible for when my desires to help other people are over the top and unhealthy for me.
I am responsible for:
My own bills, admin, housework, shopping, self care, health, saftey. I am responsible for other people's stuff only when they pay me and only when I am well enough to do it.
I am not responsible for all of my friends' housework, admin, financial affairs and childcare even when they get into difficulties. I am not responsible for the safety of people in my therapy group.
I can choose to help people out, but I will remind myself that it is a choice.
I'm not well at the moment - I'm in quite a bit of pain from a weight-training injury that was completely avoidable. This means I can't help anyone at the moment... I'm not even available as a shoulder to cry on because I feel so bloody pathetic. I have to look after myself and nobody else right now, and it is bloody hard. I've asked people to help me lately, and that is a hard thing to do.
I'm going to keep listing what I'm responsible for when my desires to help other people are over the top and unhealthy for me.