Social Media != Public Forum
If you want a Public Forum, then hit a bulletin board.
Social Media can be used to promote marketing of products, as well as kill any doubts as to whether a product is good or bad.
Sure, there are times when it can be seen by all. During those counts, I say sure, leave it open.
But if I've locked a post down to Friends Only, or even down to a custom group of my subscribers.. Then you lose any ground to complain.
Granted, I've expressed my frustrations with people publicly. I still do in other medias (see Twitter). But most of the time those are for an overall generalization or for specific companies (read: my complaints with Cox).
I learned a lesson a year or so ago after being flamed that yes, I can, and probably should, screen those who I will allow to read certain postings when I'm working through my personal shit. Anything that I let people see is a privilege for you to be allowed to see. It means that I value your input enough that if you have another perspective, I'd probably be interested in hearing it. I used to leave things open hoping that someone with an outside perspective would be interested in providing their insight, or possibly get some inspiration about something going on in their own lives. I don't now due to the aforementioned incident, and I still feel like I'm limiting my inspiration in some manners.
This leads me to point a few things out that are not as obvious to people as I have always hoped:
My subtitle on my LJ is "Disclaimer: Everything spoken here is part of my emotional workbook." Which I hold true and to the book. As with all emotions, they change and evolve, and rarely remain the same over time. This is why emotions are of the water category. It's fluid.
How I feel towards you (or those you hold dear) will not be the same as I feel when you read it, get pissed off at me, and then feel the need to tell me so. That's the beautiful thing about venting.. Once I say it, it's gone. It's not in my head any more.
I said this on another friend's journal, and I'll say it again - It's not about YOU, the reader. It's about the author. If you can't respect the author enough to let them vent (whether they name you or not), then you have no business reading their journal in the first place.
This is part of the reason why I really try hard not to read the journals of people outside my friends list. I just don't care, nor do I respect those people enough to care what they say. I also don't need that level of pissyness they seem to hold on to (no matter how old or irrelevant their information seems to be that they're using).
Blog etiquette.
Social Media can be used to promote marketing of products, as well as kill any doubts as to whether a product is good or bad.
Sure, there are times when it can be seen by all. During those counts, I say sure, leave it open.
But if I've locked a post down to Friends Only, or even down to a custom group of my subscribers.. Then you lose any ground to complain.
Granted, I've expressed my frustrations with people publicly. I still do in other medias (see Twitter). But most of the time those are for an overall generalization or for specific companies (read: my complaints with Cox).
I learned a lesson a year or so ago after being flamed that yes, I can, and probably should, screen those who I will allow to read certain postings when I'm working through my personal shit. Anything that I let people see is a privilege for you to be allowed to see. It means that I value your input enough that if you have another perspective, I'd probably be interested in hearing it. I used to leave things open hoping that someone with an outside perspective would be interested in providing their insight, or possibly get some inspiration about something going on in their own lives. I don't now due to the aforementioned incident, and I still feel like I'm limiting my inspiration in some manners.
This leads me to point a few things out that are not as obvious to people as I have always hoped:
My subtitle on my LJ is "Disclaimer: Everything spoken here is part of my emotional workbook." Which I hold true and to the book. As with all emotions, they change and evolve, and rarely remain the same over time. This is why emotions are of the water category. It's fluid.
How I feel towards you (or those you hold dear) will not be the same as I feel when you read it, get pissed off at me, and then feel the need to tell me so. That's the beautiful thing about venting.. Once I say it, it's gone. It's not in my head any more.
I said this on another friend's journal, and I'll say it again - It's not about YOU, the reader. It's about the author. If you can't respect the author enough to let them vent (whether they name you or not), then you have no business reading their journal in the first place.
This is part of the reason why I really try hard not to read the journals of people outside my friends list. I just don't care, nor do I respect those people enough to care what they say. I also don't need that level of pissyness they seem to hold on to (no matter how old or irrelevant their information seems to be that they're using).
Blog etiquette.