He died nine years ago
It's a long story, but...
I just found my ex husband's obituary.
From nine years ago.
Seriously.
San Jose Mercury News (CA)
August 23, 2002 Section: Death Notice - Classified
Dateline: CA United States Index Terms: Deceased Name: David B. Fassett Article Text:CA United States
FASSETT, David B.-- Died on August 16, 2002 in Fremont, CA. He was the son of the late Gerald L. Fassett. He is survived by his mother, Virginia Fassett of Petaluma, CA and his sister, Cynthia Fassett of Santa Rosa, CA and loving partner, Jacqueline Jackson. Also grandmother Genevieve Garcia, seven uncles, six aunts and numerous cousins. He was born on January 20, 1962 in San Francisco, CA. A graduate of Sonoma State University with a science degree in Physics, Computer Science and Astronomy, he excelled in his profession of computer engineering. He was an avid reader, scuba diver and enjoyed science fiction, music and computer technology. He was loved for his intellectual curiosity and his idiosyncratic sense of humor. Friends are invited to Graveside Services at Holy Sepulchre Cemetery, Hayward on Monday, August 26, 2002 at 11:00 a.m. Those desiring may make Memorial Contributions to Summer Science Program, Inc., c/o Henry A. Lichstein, treasurer, 544 Dryad Road, Santa Monica, CA 90402-1318 or to your favorite charity. Arrangements under the direction of MACHADO'S HILLSIDE CHAPEL, 1051 Harder Rd., Hayward, CA.
Copyright (c) 2002 San Jose Mercury News
Record Number: 456132
the only thing I wonder more than a) cause of death (seriously, 40 years old?) is b) when he took up scuba diving? Cause he sure didn't do that when I knew him...
I'm not sure how to feel about it really. So... I'll know more when I think about it.
UPDATE: Ordered a copy of the death certificate from the county. So, hopefully in a couple of weeks I'll know what went down.
BTW, when I said I'm not sure how to feel about it, I did NOT mean that "happy" was one of the choices. It's weird that in my head he's been alive, and I've wondered about him, and avoided conventions that he might be at, and so on. I've grazed websites looking for info before but I've figured he didn't have a public FB (he was very compy-savvy; he taught me how to build and maintain mine back before there really were decent PCs. Like in the late 80's). Also search websites still list him as being alive (and, oddly, they list me among the relatives...) so I never suspected otherwise. I just thought he didn't want his life all over the internet. Turns out he was gone before the internet really exploded.
minor update: just realized that he died before LOTR: The Two Towers came out. I don't know why it bothers me that he never saw more than the first movie.
Still wrapping my brain around it. Will update moar later.
I just found my ex husband's obituary.
From nine years ago.
Seriously.
San Jose Mercury News (CA)
August 23, 2002 Section: Death Notice - Classified
Dateline: CA United States Index Terms: Deceased Name: David B. Fassett Article Text:CA United States
FASSETT, David B.-- Died on August 16, 2002 in Fremont, CA. He was the son of the late Gerald L. Fassett. He is survived by his mother, Virginia Fassett of Petaluma, CA and his sister, Cynthia Fassett of Santa Rosa, CA and loving partner, Jacqueline Jackson. Also grandmother Genevieve Garcia, seven uncles, six aunts and numerous cousins. He was born on January 20, 1962 in San Francisco, CA. A graduate of Sonoma State University with a science degree in Physics, Computer Science and Astronomy, he excelled in his profession of computer engineering. He was an avid reader, scuba diver and enjoyed science fiction, music and computer technology. He was loved for his intellectual curiosity and his idiosyncratic sense of humor. Friends are invited to Graveside Services at Holy Sepulchre Cemetery, Hayward on Monday, August 26, 2002 at 11:00 a.m. Those desiring may make Memorial Contributions to Summer Science Program, Inc., c/o Henry A. Lichstein, treasurer, 544 Dryad Road, Santa Monica, CA 90402-1318 or to your favorite charity. Arrangements under the direction of MACHADO'S HILLSIDE CHAPEL, 1051 Harder Rd., Hayward, CA.
Copyright (c) 2002 San Jose Mercury News
Record Number: 456132
the only thing I wonder more than a) cause of death (seriously, 40 years old?) is b) when he took up scuba diving? Cause he sure didn't do that when I knew him...
I'm not sure how to feel about it really. So... I'll know more when I think about it.
UPDATE: Ordered a copy of the death certificate from the county. So, hopefully in a couple of weeks I'll know what went down.
BTW, when I said I'm not sure how to feel about it, I did NOT mean that "happy" was one of the choices. It's weird that in my head he's been alive, and I've wondered about him, and avoided conventions that he might be at, and so on. I've grazed websites looking for info before but I've figured he didn't have a public FB (he was very compy-savvy; he taught me how to build and maintain mine back before there really were decent PCs. Like in the late 80's). Also search websites still list him as being alive (and, oddly, they list me among the relatives...) so I never suspected otherwise. I just thought he didn't want his life all over the internet. Turns out he was gone before the internet really exploded.
minor update: just realized that he died before LOTR: The Two Towers came out. I don't know why it bothers me that he never saw more than the first movie.
Still wrapping my brain around it. Will update moar later.