brick walls
the only way one can be truly happy is to live in now. living in the past only adds stress to situations and leads to more complications that can result in confusion.
case in point, me.
i have a serious and healthy relationship with a 25 year old man. normal for a girl my age. although i am sure that there are many females my age who would love to have a relationship as i know it's hard to get a date in the mecca we call home or Orlando. sure we met online, but this folks is the wave of the future. being with a man can lead to stability and being more comfortable in one's skin.
however, like most women around my age i have been severely hurt before, and yes, by a man. shocking isn't it? us ladies blame a lot of our problems on men. however, when relationships sour you have to wonder, is it completely HIS fault? sure, for maybe the first year, it TOTALLY is. after that year of killing him numerous ways in your head, you might get to thinking perhaps i had an hand or at least a finger in the downfall of this happy union.
and then that day comes, you realize, you had a hand in your relationship's demise. he was not the jerk you made him up to be, because remember this was the man you were intending on marrying someday. there were good times. and yes, there were the bad times. you may think that the bad times outnumber the good times by the millions, but perhaps the good times are only shadowed by how much you hate this ex.
but the ex, and the memories will always be with you just like that pair of skinny jeans that makes your butt look amazing. it's your choice to relive these shaken feelings. you could take them as a lesson learned and move on. or you could build a brick wall around your heart that any man you date would need to either climb or completely demolish. the first choice is more logical and would lead to more fruitful relationships. or perhaps you find a guy who is willing to spend the time to assist you in removing these bricks slowly and cautiously. this man understands that scar tissue remains from previously wounds or relationships. he understands that being in a relationship with any woman is an uphill battle because she may have been hurt before and have lost some trust with men.
once those bricks are laying in a pile of ruble, they lay dormant. the relationship flourishes and becomes as beautiful a new spring tulip. again, it's your prerogative to rebuild the wall, which at times seems to happen. perhaps a memory resurfaces and your close off your heart to the new man, you may return back to the infantile stage of the relationship.
now this man that you have managed to hold so dear to your heart, may run away. the pressure of a brick wall can sometimes be too much for one man to hold up. some men care not to be in a rebuilding mood, and run. finding that man who helps you put yourself back in order is paramount. this man, i must tell you, is a keeper.
luckily, i have found a man like this. at times, my brick wall begins to rebuild and he talks me through this pain. he is still there on the other side of the half constructed brick wall looking over and demolishing slowly. he's cautious and kind.
memories resurface and that ex whom you thought you'd be delivering his children by now is somewhere with his shadow of those memories. perhaps his demons of this courtship you shared shadow his perception of his new relationship. but, feeling comfortable with the man you now have is the main priority. live in the now, live for the day, relish in the now, and smile knowing there is a man out there, perhaps in Daytona Beach that loves you just the way you are, bricks and all.
case in point, me.
i have a serious and healthy relationship with a 25 year old man. normal for a girl my age. although i am sure that there are many females my age who would love to have a relationship as i know it's hard to get a date in the mecca we call home or Orlando. sure we met online, but this folks is the wave of the future. being with a man can lead to stability and being more comfortable in one's skin.
however, like most women around my age i have been severely hurt before, and yes, by a man. shocking isn't it? us ladies blame a lot of our problems on men. however, when relationships sour you have to wonder, is it completely HIS fault? sure, for maybe the first year, it TOTALLY is. after that year of killing him numerous ways in your head, you might get to thinking perhaps i had an hand or at least a finger in the downfall of this happy union.
and then that day comes, you realize, you had a hand in your relationship's demise. he was not the jerk you made him up to be, because remember this was the man you were intending on marrying someday. there were good times. and yes, there were the bad times. you may think that the bad times outnumber the good times by the millions, but perhaps the good times are only shadowed by how much you hate this ex.
but the ex, and the memories will always be with you just like that pair of skinny jeans that makes your butt look amazing. it's your choice to relive these shaken feelings. you could take them as a lesson learned and move on. or you could build a brick wall around your heart that any man you date would need to either climb or completely demolish. the first choice is more logical and would lead to more fruitful relationships. or perhaps you find a guy who is willing to spend the time to assist you in removing these bricks slowly and cautiously. this man understands that scar tissue remains from previously wounds or relationships. he understands that being in a relationship with any woman is an uphill battle because she may have been hurt before and have lost some trust with men.
once those bricks are laying in a pile of ruble, they lay dormant. the relationship flourishes and becomes as beautiful a new spring tulip. again, it's your prerogative to rebuild the wall, which at times seems to happen. perhaps a memory resurfaces and your close off your heart to the new man, you may return back to the infantile stage of the relationship.
now this man that you have managed to hold so dear to your heart, may run away. the pressure of a brick wall can sometimes be too much for one man to hold up. some men care not to be in a rebuilding mood, and run. finding that man who helps you put yourself back in order is paramount. this man, i must tell you, is a keeper.
luckily, i have found a man like this. at times, my brick wall begins to rebuild and he talks me through this pain. he is still there on the other side of the half constructed brick wall looking over and demolishing slowly. he's cautious and kind.
memories resurface and that ex whom you thought you'd be delivering his children by now is somewhere with his shadow of those memories. perhaps his demons of this courtship you shared shadow his perception of his new relationship. but, feeling comfortable with the man you now have is the main priority. live in the now, live for the day, relish in the now, and smile knowing there is a man out there, perhaps in Daytona Beach that loves you just the way you are, bricks and all.