GFDI
After a year and a half of being dead, my mother's useless nuisance ass has reared its head into my life again.
This week, I received both a voicemail and a personal letter from the lady that was renting my mother her apartment at the time of her death.
--We interrupt my rage for some minor backstory for those of you who don't know much of anything about my mother--
In the last decade of my mother's life from about 1997-2008, she went from being a loving, caring, fun mother, to be a stealing, abusive, drug-addled, alcoholic. She stole thousands in dollars from me, she would physically assault me, and she would attack me personally. She began frequenting bars, sleeping with whoever she met, and was heavily addicted to pain medication. Finally, in 2004, she was involved in an awful (drunk) motorcycle accident, which left her in bad physical shape. After staying in a nursing facility for several months, she moved in with a nurse friend she met at the facility until they kicked her out for her abuse of prescription pain medication and checked her into a rehab. Out of the rehab, she was staying shortly in a motel where she unsuccessfully--unfortunately--tried to hang herself. While in a temporary facility due to this, she met the aforementioned landlady, who had also recently tried to off herself unsuccessfully--unfortunately.
By this point, I had been done with my mother for years. I only spoke to her once a month or so, when she called me, and hadn't visited her in a long while.
Well, the lady my mom met began letting my mother lodge in an apartment property she owned. The landlady, thinking my mother was lonely, got her a dog to live with. After a few months living there, my mother finally managed to kill herself after an accidental--we think--overdose of pain patches (she would apply them to her body, AND chew them up in her mouth...lovely).
When my mother died, I met this landlady for the first time to clear out my mother's paperwork so I could see about canceling her disability and social security. She seemed nice enough.
Anyway, my mother died. The few measly possessions--a little baggie of junk jewelery and a wallet empty of anything but receipts and IDs--were given to me, and her father and I paid out of pocket for her to be cremated with no fanfare. She left the world with nothing: no bank accounts, no money, no possessions except for some old clothes and a broken radio, no insurance, and no will. She was dead, and after all her torture of me for a decade, I didn't even get a cent out of it.
Now, a year and a half later, I have been contacted twice by this landlady, telling me she has spoken to her attorney, and she wants me to pay to have all the damages the dog and my mother made to the apartment, as well as for unpaid rent.
Now, I never lived in this apartment. I never signed a lease. I was never even used as a reference. I never met the lady. I never did anything to this apartment except remove from paperwork after my mother's death. My mother died with no estate to speak of, and had no value. If she had any with the state, I am unaware of it, because I was not appointed executor of her estate, and made no such inquiries.
Legally, from all the advice and research I've done, this lady does not have a legal leg to stand on. I should not bear any responsibility for these things which I had no part in, other than being the estranged child of the lady who did. But, she is at least THREATENING to take some kind of action against me.
Whether this lady got any security or pet damaged deposits from my mom (for a pet SHE gave my mother!), I have no idea, but either way it is not my responsibility. Whether she even has dated, documented, certified pictures of the apartment to prove my mother or he dog made those damaged, I have no idea. Whether she has ANY kind of legal contract or lease with my mother, I have no idea. And whether she has any dated, certified, documented notices of past-due rent to my mother, I have no idea.
I keep wanting to call this lady and tell her to go pound sand, but I doubt that is a good idea. I've been advised to just ignore here, and if she actually follows through with a hearing or anything, deal with it from there, where I can't possibly be found liable. But still...that seems like a hassle, where I'd have to get some kind of representation who can handle him/herself in court... Sigh. I think this lady is just trying to extort money from me, and I really do not appreciate it.
This week, I received both a voicemail and a personal letter from the lady that was renting my mother her apartment at the time of her death.
--We interrupt my rage for some minor backstory for those of you who don't know much of anything about my mother--
In the last decade of my mother's life from about 1997-2008, she went from being a loving, caring, fun mother, to be a stealing, abusive, drug-addled, alcoholic. She stole thousands in dollars from me, she would physically assault me, and she would attack me personally. She began frequenting bars, sleeping with whoever she met, and was heavily addicted to pain medication. Finally, in 2004, she was involved in an awful (drunk) motorcycle accident, which left her in bad physical shape. After staying in a nursing facility for several months, she moved in with a nurse friend she met at the facility until they kicked her out for her abuse of prescription pain medication and checked her into a rehab. Out of the rehab, she was staying shortly in a motel where she unsuccessfully--unfortunately--tried to hang herself. While in a temporary facility due to this, she met the aforementioned landlady, who had also recently tried to off herself unsuccessfully--unfortunately.
By this point, I had been done with my mother for years. I only spoke to her once a month or so, when she called me, and hadn't visited her in a long while.
Well, the lady my mom met began letting my mother lodge in an apartment property she owned. The landlady, thinking my mother was lonely, got her a dog to live with. After a few months living there, my mother finally managed to kill herself after an accidental--we think--overdose of pain patches (she would apply them to her body, AND chew them up in her mouth...lovely).
When my mother died, I met this landlady for the first time to clear out my mother's paperwork so I could see about canceling her disability and social security. She seemed nice enough.
Anyway, my mother died. The few measly possessions--a little baggie of junk jewelery and a wallet empty of anything but receipts and IDs--were given to me, and her father and I paid out of pocket for her to be cremated with no fanfare. She left the world with nothing: no bank accounts, no money, no possessions except for some old clothes and a broken radio, no insurance, and no will. She was dead, and after all her torture of me for a decade, I didn't even get a cent out of it.
Now, a year and a half later, I have been contacted twice by this landlady, telling me she has spoken to her attorney, and she wants me to pay to have all the damages the dog and my mother made to the apartment, as well as for unpaid rent.
Now, I never lived in this apartment. I never signed a lease. I was never even used as a reference. I never met the lady. I never did anything to this apartment except remove from paperwork after my mother's death. My mother died with no estate to speak of, and had no value. If she had any with the state, I am unaware of it, because I was not appointed executor of her estate, and made no such inquiries.
Legally, from all the advice and research I've done, this lady does not have a legal leg to stand on. I should not bear any responsibility for these things which I had no part in, other than being the estranged child of the lady who did. But, she is at least THREATENING to take some kind of action against me.
Whether this lady got any security or pet damaged deposits from my mom (for a pet SHE gave my mother!), I have no idea, but either way it is not my responsibility. Whether she even has dated, documented, certified pictures of the apartment to prove my mother or he dog made those damaged, I have no idea. Whether she has ANY kind of legal contract or lease with my mother, I have no idea. And whether she has any dated, certified, documented notices of past-due rent to my mother, I have no idea.
I keep wanting to call this lady and tell her to go pound sand, but I doubt that is a good idea. I've been advised to just ignore here, and if she actually follows through with a hearing or anything, deal with it from there, where I can't possibly be found liable. But still...that seems like a hassle, where I'd have to get some kind of representation who can handle him/herself in court... Sigh. I think this lady is just trying to extort money from me, and I really do not appreciate it.