Poll, because Paid members can do that.
I was thinking about a certain situation here, and I thought I'd put it up to a vote amongst friends and see where the results lie. I'm going to try to describe the scenario as objectively as I can, so as not to reveal my personal stance on it. Comments will be screened so you guys can't badger and politic future voters. I know how you are.
You and [person] are in love. There is a conflict, however. There is something about you (be it a specific friend or a bowling team or a book club, etc) that makes [person] jealous. You have discussed this over with [person], and you seem to be at an impasse. You feel it is possessive of [person] to have jealousy and fear over your [friend, bowling team, book club, etc]. There is no betrayal of trust or emotion that has ever occurred, and you want to maintain your personal freedom. You don't want to sacrifice things that bring you innocent outside happiness for your loved one. [Person] feels that the issue is not a widespread, possessive jealousy; it is just focused on one particular thing that they can't explain that rubs them the wrong way. [Person] also feels that by not acknowledging [person's] right to [person's] feelings, you are demeaning the feelings between you. Time goes by and the feelings on each side fester. What do you do?
Option A) Put the [friend, book club, bowling team, etc.] to the side and focus on it much less for the sake of your loved one.
Option B) Stand by your [friend, book club, bowling team, etc] passionately, at the possible expense of your loved one.
Poll
There's no right or wrong answer, I promise. And I'm not looking for people to specifically take side A or side B. I just want to see what you would do in this circumstance, as well as why. Thank you guys!
Addendum: Everyone seems to be inferring something here that I never said. So if you haven't done this yet, read it carefully, and don't make any assumptions about anything either person may or may not have said.
You and [person] are in love. There is a conflict, however. There is something about you (be it a specific friend or a bowling team or a book club, etc) that makes [person] jealous. You have discussed this over with [person], and you seem to be at an impasse. You feel it is possessive of [person] to have jealousy and fear over your [friend, bowling team, book club, etc]. There is no betrayal of trust or emotion that has ever occurred, and you want to maintain your personal freedom. You don't want to sacrifice things that bring you innocent outside happiness for your loved one. [Person] feels that the issue is not a widespread, possessive jealousy; it is just focused on one particular thing that they can't explain that rubs them the wrong way. [Person] also feels that by not acknowledging [person's] right to [person's] feelings, you are demeaning the feelings between you. Time goes by and the feelings on each side fester. What do you do?
Option A) Put the [friend, book club, bowling team, etc.] to the side and focus on it much less for the sake of your loved one.
Option B) Stand by your [friend, book club, bowling team, etc] passionately, at the possible expense of your loved one.
Poll
There's no right or wrong answer, I promise. And I'm not looking for people to specifically take side A or side B. I just want to see what you would do in this circumstance, as well as why. Thank you guys!
Addendum: Everyone seems to be inferring something here that I never said. So if you haven't done this yet, read it carefully, and don't make any assumptions about anything either person may or may not have said.