my ten cents
I don't have the perfet explanation for what love "is," but I do know what it is not. It is not lust, nor sex, nor dependence. It is not romance, nor control, nor desire. All of those, some good and some bad, can result from love, but none of them are love.
In simplest terms love is a caring relationship between two people. The realationships differ, and love differs accordingly. I am writing specifically about romantic love though, so I will stay on topic. Romantic love, and all love, involves two people, but they have completely different roles. In romantic love, straight or otherwise, there is a masculine role and a feminine role, not nesseccarily gender specific, and the love felt by each is extremely different. Healthy masculine love involves a desire to, as police say, protect and serve, as well as provide for. By provide for, I mean on all levels: yes, primarily physical,but also mentally and emotionally, as well as for those needs that don't fall neatly into one of these categories.Yes, at times guys don't like to listen, and they instantaneously pull on the superman outit and grab the toolbox; that is our nature. Since I am not a woman, I do not know what feminine love entails, but I do know that it varies considerably more so than masculine love, although it often involves, in addition to a need for security, many of the same desires as masculine love, though more emotionally than physically.
The big thing with love, however, its that it doesn't just happen; you have to work at it. Life may be a bitch, but love is twce as hard, and that is why it takes two.
In simplest terms love is a caring relationship between two people. The realationships differ, and love differs accordingly. I am writing specifically about romantic love though, so I will stay on topic. Romantic love, and all love, involves two people, but they have completely different roles. In romantic love, straight or otherwise, there is a masculine role and a feminine role, not nesseccarily gender specific, and the love felt by each is extremely different. Healthy masculine love involves a desire to, as police say, protect and serve, as well as provide for. By provide for, I mean on all levels: yes, primarily physical,but also mentally and emotionally, as well as for those needs that don't fall neatly into one of these categories.Yes, at times guys don't like to listen, and they instantaneously pull on the superman outit and grab the toolbox; that is our nature. Since I am not a woman, I do not know what feminine love entails, but I do know that it varies considerably more so than masculine love, although it often involves, in addition to a need for security, many of the same desires as masculine love, though more emotionally than physically.
The big thing with love, however, its that it doesn't just happen; you have to work at it. Life may be a bitch, but love is twce as hard, and that is why it takes two.