Relationship Survey... That Actually Made Me Think
This survey might make you uncomfortable, but your mission (if you choose to accept it) is to answer honestly.
-Longest relationship:
2 years
-Shortest relationship
Perhaps... 6 months
-How many people have you broken up with?
Out of 5 (not counting Matt kuz we're solid)... 3. The other 2 were mutual... sort of.
-How many times have you truly been in love?
5 (counting Matt).
-How many boyfriends/girlfriends have told you they loved you?
All of them.
-Have you ever thought that you were going to marry the person you were with?
It's a thought, but doubtful. The reasons would have to be truly exceptional.
-Have you ever loved someone so much that it hurt?
Yup.
-Have you ever made a boyfriend or girlfriend cry?
Unfortunately.
-Are you happier single or in a relationship?
Depends on the relationship. I figure by the time I'm so frustrated in a relationship that I'd rather be single... it's a sign. At the moment, however, very very happy with Matt. :)
-Have you ever cheated on a boyfriend or girlfriend?
No.
-Have you ever been cheated on?
Not that I know of, but I doubt it.
-What is your favorite thing about the attracted sex?
The 'attracted' sex? Hmm... the fact that they're attracted to me? :) Actually, I notice eyes and hair. And personality and humour. Those are important too.
-What is the best part of being in a relationship?
Cuddling. Having someone to count on even when I'm not at my best. Sensual massages. Sex whenever I want it (unless he doesn't, but that's rare). Having someone to scrub my back in the shower. Having someone to wrap my arms around. Talking late at night before falling asleep.
-What is the worst part of being in a relationship?
Nothing bad about Matt. :) But in the past... jealousy and possessiveness piss me off. If I'm with you, it's kuz I want to be with you, not anyone else. If you can't get that thru your head, it means you don't trust me, and we have a problem.
-Worst relationship?
Everyone who knows me knows this one.
-Have you ever had your heart broken?
Yup.
-Have you ever broken someones heart?
Unfortunately... at least, so I've been told.
-Do you talk to any of your exes?
I work with Chris, so it'd be hard not to. :) Petyr - sometimes online. Éamon - whenever we can (which sadly isn't often). Nick - no. Ken - hell no.
-If you could go back in time and change things to where you could still be with one of your exes, would you?
Hahahahahahaha! No.
-Do you think any of your exes feel the same way?
Meh. It's over.
-What is your ideal boyfriend or girlfriend?
Matt:
Has sense of personal responsibility? Check.
Consistently shows me he cares? Check.
Communicates effectively? Check.
Allows me the space/time I need for myself? Check.
Puts about as much importance on my needs as his own? Check.
Good in bed? Check! Check! Check!
Has a lovely sense of humour? Check.
Has cool hair? Check.
-Do you believe that you are a good boyfriend or girlfriend?
He tells me often. :) It's so easy with him.
-Have you dated people who were not good to you?
Yeah, but I learned my lessons. And it's not that they were particularily bad... just not right for me.
Have you been in an abusive relationship?
Not exactly... It was more me abusing myself by not getting the hell out when I should have.
-Name your most memorable exes:
I remember them all for different reasons.
-Have you ever had sex with someone just so that they would stay with you?
No. Sex w/o love, trust, and commitment does not hold a relationship together... in fact it's not even really a relationship; it's just sex.
-Have you ever had sexual fantasies about one of your exes?
It happens.
-Have you dated someone older then you?.
Éamon and Chris are older.
-Younger?
Nick, Ken, Petyr, and Matt are younger.
-What is one thing that all of your exes had in common?:
They're all men... all talented... all charming in their own way...
-Who is the most attractive ex that you have ever dated?
They're all attractive for different reasons.
-Have you ever done anything sexual in front of your parents?
On accident. Really, really on accident.
-In the movies?
Made out a little.
-Do you regret anything that you have done with a boyfriend or girlfriend?
No. Regrets are stupid. Why beat yourself up over something you can never change? Learn from it, and move on.
-Have you ever cried yourself to sleep over a boyfriend or girlfriend?
Oh yeah...
-When is the last time that you were in a relationship?
I am currently.
-Do you believe everyone deserves a second chance?
Depends on how badly they fuck up in the first place and how apologetic they are about it.
-Believe in love at first sight?
No.
-Ever dated two people at once?
Sort of...? Senior year was a little confusing...
Had two relationships at once?
Sort of...? But everyone knew what was going on.
-What's the perfect date?
I don't really do 'dates'... but Matt and I made plans to play pool on Sunday; that's fun. :)
-Ever been given a promise ring?
I think so... but nothing came of it.
-Do you want to get married?
It's not in my plans, but I suppose anything could happen.
-Do you have something to say to any of your exes?
Éamon: I miss you! And I hope you're surviving the ship. Call me whenever you have the time, and thanks again for your wishes for my grandma. I hope your family is hanging in there. :)
Nick: I wish we'd had more time to get to know each other before everything became crazy. I'm sorry if I ever did anything to hurt you, and I'd love to see you again if it's suposed to happen.
Ken: I think you've already said everything you needed to, and I have no interest in trying to change your mind. It's far too emotionally draining. I wish you a good life.
Petyr: I know we never see each other any more, but I hope that things are going well for you. It's fun catching up online occasionally, and if you're ever in the city and feel like hanging out, drop me a line; my cell number is still the same.
Chris: I see you every week, and we do a decent amount of catching up at work. I'm glad you're doing well with Tiffany, and I'm happy we can still talk.
-Ever stolen someone's boyfriend or girlfriend?
Not that I know of. Besides... it'd be a little hard to steal someone if they didn't want to be stolen. 'Stealing' people's emotions is a stupid notion.
-Ever liked someone else's boyfriend or girlfriend?
I enjoy the company of all of my friends' significant others... but I'm happy with Matt. Even if I were single, I wouldn't infringe on someone else's relationship. That's just rude.
-Do you believe in true love?
I believe in love, and that for every person love manifests in a different way. If it's real and honest, then it's true, regardless of whether it's romantic or friendly or familial or any combination.
-Does heartbreak really feel as bad as it sounds?
Heartache sucks, and sometimes it does physically hurt. But I'm going with Rachel on this one: sometimes pain is good. Pain makes you learn stuff that you might not have known otherwise.
-Do you think that you will find or have found the love of your life?
Everything is wonderful with Matt so far. We fit better than I ever believed was possible, and I see no reason that it would change, so, yeah... I really think we've found each other. :) But on the off-chance that something crazy happens, I'll always have myself. :)*
-Longest relationship:
2 years
-Shortest relationship
Perhaps... 6 months
-How many people have you broken up with?
Out of 5 (not counting Matt kuz we're solid)... 3. The other 2 were mutual... sort of.
-How many times have you truly been in love?
5 (counting Matt).
-How many boyfriends/girlfriends have told you they loved you?
All of them.
-Have you ever thought that you were going to marry the person you were with?
It's a thought, but doubtful. The reasons would have to be truly exceptional.
-Have you ever loved someone so much that it hurt?
Yup.
-Have you ever made a boyfriend or girlfriend cry?
Unfortunately.
-Are you happier single or in a relationship?
Depends on the relationship. I figure by the time I'm so frustrated in a relationship that I'd rather be single... it's a sign. At the moment, however, very very happy with Matt. :)
-Have you ever cheated on a boyfriend or girlfriend?
No.
-Have you ever been cheated on?
Not that I know of, but I doubt it.
-What is your favorite thing about the attracted sex?
The 'attracted' sex? Hmm... the fact that they're attracted to me? :) Actually, I notice eyes and hair. And personality and humour. Those are important too.
-What is the best part of being in a relationship?
Cuddling. Having someone to count on even when I'm not at my best. Sensual massages. Sex whenever I want it (unless he doesn't, but that's rare). Having someone to scrub my back in the shower. Having someone to wrap my arms around. Talking late at night before falling asleep.
-What is the worst part of being in a relationship?
Nothing bad about Matt. :) But in the past... jealousy and possessiveness piss me off. If I'm with you, it's kuz I want to be with you, not anyone else. If you can't get that thru your head, it means you don't trust me, and we have a problem.
-Worst relationship?
Everyone who knows me knows this one.
-Have you ever had your heart broken?
Yup.
-Have you ever broken someones heart?
Unfortunately... at least, so I've been told.
-Do you talk to any of your exes?
I work with Chris, so it'd be hard not to. :) Petyr - sometimes online. Éamon - whenever we can (which sadly isn't often). Nick - no. Ken - hell no.
-If you could go back in time and change things to where you could still be with one of your exes, would you?
Hahahahahahaha! No.
-Do you think any of your exes feel the same way?
Meh. It's over.
-What is your ideal boyfriend or girlfriend?
Matt:
Has sense of personal responsibility? Check.
Consistently shows me he cares? Check.
Communicates effectively? Check.
Allows me the space/time I need for myself? Check.
Puts about as much importance on my needs as his own? Check.
Good in bed? Check! Check! Check!
Has a lovely sense of humour? Check.
Has cool hair? Check.
-Do you believe that you are a good boyfriend or girlfriend?
He tells me often. :) It's so easy with him.
-Have you dated people who were not good to you?
Yeah, but I learned my lessons. And it's not that they were particularily bad... just not right for me.
Have you been in an abusive relationship?
Not exactly... It was more me abusing myself by not getting the hell out when I should have.
-Name your most memorable exes:
I remember them all for different reasons.
-Have you ever had sex with someone just so that they would stay with you?
No. Sex w/o love, trust, and commitment does not hold a relationship together... in fact it's not even really a relationship; it's just sex.
-Have you ever had sexual fantasies about one of your exes?
It happens.
-Have you dated someone older then you?.
Éamon and Chris are older.
-Younger?
Nick, Ken, Petyr, and Matt are younger.
-What is one thing that all of your exes had in common?:
They're all men... all talented... all charming in their own way...
-Who is the most attractive ex that you have ever dated?
They're all attractive for different reasons.
-Have you ever done anything sexual in front of your parents?
On accident. Really, really on accident.
-In the movies?
Made out a little.
-Do you regret anything that you have done with a boyfriend or girlfriend?
No. Regrets are stupid. Why beat yourself up over something you can never change? Learn from it, and move on.
-Have you ever cried yourself to sleep over a boyfriend or girlfriend?
Oh yeah...
-When is the last time that you were in a relationship?
I am currently.
-Do you believe everyone deserves a second chance?
Depends on how badly they fuck up in the first place and how apologetic they are about it.
-Believe in love at first sight?
No.
-Ever dated two people at once?
Sort of...? Senior year was a little confusing...
Had two relationships at once?
Sort of...? But everyone knew what was going on.
-What's the perfect date?
I don't really do 'dates'... but Matt and I made plans to play pool on Sunday; that's fun. :)
-Ever been given a promise ring?
I think so... but nothing came of it.
-Do you want to get married?
It's not in my plans, but I suppose anything could happen.
-Do you have something to say to any of your exes?
Éamon: I miss you! And I hope you're surviving the ship. Call me whenever you have the time, and thanks again for your wishes for my grandma. I hope your family is hanging in there. :)
Nick: I wish we'd had more time to get to know each other before everything became crazy. I'm sorry if I ever did anything to hurt you, and I'd love to see you again if it's suposed to happen.
Ken: I think you've already said everything you needed to, and I have no interest in trying to change your mind. It's far too emotionally draining. I wish you a good life.
Petyr: I know we never see each other any more, but I hope that things are going well for you. It's fun catching up online occasionally, and if you're ever in the city and feel like hanging out, drop me a line; my cell number is still the same.
Chris: I see you every week, and we do a decent amount of catching up at work. I'm glad you're doing well with Tiffany, and I'm happy we can still talk.
-Ever stolen someone's boyfriend or girlfriend?
Not that I know of. Besides... it'd be a little hard to steal someone if they didn't want to be stolen. 'Stealing' people's emotions is a stupid notion.
-Ever liked someone else's boyfriend or girlfriend?
I enjoy the company of all of my friends' significant others... but I'm happy with Matt. Even if I were single, I wouldn't infringe on someone else's relationship. That's just rude.
-Do you believe in true love?
I believe in love, and that for every person love manifests in a different way. If it's real and honest, then it's true, regardless of whether it's romantic or friendly or familial or any combination.
-Does heartbreak really feel as bad as it sounds?
Heartache sucks, and sometimes it does physically hurt. But I'm going with Rachel on this one: sometimes pain is good. Pain makes you learn stuff that you might not have known otherwise.
-Do you think that you will find or have found the love of your life?
Everything is wonderful with Matt so far. We fit better than I ever believed was possible, and I see no reason that it would change, so, yeah... I really think we've found each other. :) But on the off-chance that something crazy happens, I'll always have myself. :)*