On birth tears or; The Many Ways to Use Comfrey

[norwegian_wood]

As some of you know, I had a second degree tear with Fiery's birth. It didn't hurt at all, and I didn't have the whole 'ring of fire' experience, so I wouldn't have even known that I tore if I hadn't looked. After I discovered it, I was pretty freaked out, because I didn't know what I know now about healing. So I share this in hopes of empowering

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[altarflame]

Slightly off topic, but -

Everybody always talks about their first time popping their cherry lately. I popped my own cherry masturbating way before I ever had sex, and the first chick I ever talked to about this had done the same thing. Neither of us had a hymen when we "did it" for the first time. So I assumed that was common, or at least heard of - especially when I read some things afterward talking about how you can damage or destroy your hymen in all sorts of ways - like falling on the bar of a boys' bike, horseback riding, etc etc.

But now I realize that much of bethrothal and aristocracy in years' passed depended on that little flap of skin, and that many a romance novel is based around it, and I keep hearing people reference it...sometimes I wonder if Grant wonders if he was REALLY my first time, seeings how there was no blood or pain involved.

[norwegian_wood]

you know what's wild is, after vaginal birth, you can see the remnants of the hymenal ring...it's pretty neat! like ruffles 'round the love shack!

my first time didn't hurt either, but that's because it was with an irishman ;)

p.s. most people don't masturbate by having sex!

[altarflame]

Is putting something up in there considered having sex? o_O What the heck is an orgasm without penetration, anyway - you see, this is why I could never be a lesbian!

Clitoral junk is good, but clitoral + other stuff is grrrrreEAT. Or something.

[norwegian_wood]

i was making a joke, implying that you weren't a virgin before grant. har har i'm so funny, i have to explain my jokes!

[babyslime]

I tore my hymen and partway up my vaginal canal when I was a child in a skateboarding accident. :-/ I never let them examine me so no one was able to ascertain the extent of the damage, the next time I got an exam was while pregnant with Tempest! Maggie said the scarring wasn't significant, but really that's all I know.

Sex for the first time didn't hurt for me, either. It wasn't instantaneous mind-blowing orgasms but really it was a great experience, not like those horror stories of pain and blood I always hear.

[altarflame]

I remember that story :x I was thinking of that as an example like the bikes and horseback riding, but didn't want to put it out there since it's yours and personal.

Really, though, I think it must suck A LOT to have your first time involve tearing skin and bleeding....