Cleansing/disconnecting a talisman or stone... and my involvement in it?

[neumeindil]

Attempting to keep this brief: my Other Half is an empirical thinker and Buddhist on the Autism spectrum. He regularly wears a gold and onyx ring that belonged to his step-grandfather, a man who saw only my Other Half's "disability" and wrote him off as "useless" for most of their lives together. The ring was initially a gift from the grandfather's

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[jealousofstars]

If you haven't already, I'd smudge/cleanse the entire house. Other things you can do to your house -- add plants. Basil and rosemary are good for protection. You could sprinkle salt on the carpets/floor and allow it to absorb negative energy for a minute or two before you vacuum or sweep it out while visualizing the negative energies leaving your home.

Since your other half is Buddhist, perhaps ringing a bell in every corner of the house to dispel negative energies? Playing a CD with tingshaws would have the same effect, too, though probably stronger to ring the bell yourself.

I would also cleanse the ring. If you're worried about damaging it, cleanse it with water (fresh water if you have it, or just tap water), then lay it on a bed of sea salt for a day or two and maybe smudge it as well, or place it near some sage incense so that the smoke glides over it.

If you're concerned that the entity is attached to you, I'd recommend cleansing yourself -- a bath with epsom salts and herbs, cleansing meditation, reiki -- and then charging a protection stone that you can wear or carry with you at all times. Maybe jet or black tourmaline or something along those lines.

[neumeindil]

Thanks for your thoughts. You've hit on my biggest trouble-- my protective stones keep breaking, usually the bezel, but at least twice the crystal itself has cracked. So it sounds like time for an upgrade there. The bath may be difficult since my tub 1) doesn't hold water and 2) is where I spent most of the days during my last miscarriage, but I might be able to modify the normal ritual for the shower at the inlaws' since we have to go back to finish cleaning and put in AC units before they come home for the summer.

I think sweeping with salt and the bell will be things he can get behind. I even have a small brass bell that was my grandmothers' that will work given the situation. I'd thought to smudge the ring while I smudge my in laws' house and have a holy sage and sweetgrass wand I haven't used yet that should do it, but that might be too "unbelievable" for him. He could probably use a good smudging too, come to think of it. Just not sure if he'd go along with it. (He's afraid seeing this entity means he's "crazy". I've been through this two other times, with two different partners. I'm afraid it means the entity is attached to me and is attacking partners to get to me, which means it might be time to call a professional.)

[katze_neko_mew]

Which is why suggesting sage incense might work better. People are more used to incense, so the act of using it might be as funky to him.

[soulshrapnel]

I think other people in this thread are giving excellent advice already but I just want to ask, why are you spending so much effort and emotional energy on someone who believes that the things you work with every day don't exist, and that it's "crazy" to see or interact with them?

I get that from the world around me enough already. I don't need it in a romantic partner, too. (And the Autism spectrum is not an excuse - I know many Autistic witches.)

You deserve to be believed, especially by the person who is asking for your help in the first place...

[neumeindil]

I love who I love. That he's experiencing an awakening is nothing to worry about. It should, from a community standpoint, be something to celebrate, since someone who depends on scientific proof and reasoning is now willing to admit there are things science does not yet understand, coming out of the camp that writes our collective experiences off as "mental illness".

I'm hoping this post on your part comes from a good place, but so far all I can really gather from it is that you're being judgmental and possibly projecting.