My Promiscuity
As much as I surround myself with positivity, I find that once in a while, I hear someone assert that a woman who is promiscuous is such because she is looking for a replacement for love, or doesn't value herself, or has self-confidence or "daddy" issues, etc.
This bothers me. I don't doubt that there are girls out there doing just that. In fact, for some time I even thought that I was doing just that, because I heard it so often from people who didn't necessarily know how promiscuous I was, and I quietly sat and accepted the fact that my sexuality was probably a response to the need to feel wanted and valued. Sex is an easy way to get the attention, after all; it must have been my chosen method of coping with feelings of inadequacy as I matured.
I no longer think this is so.
I think I just always liked sex.
And I don't think that people who find that out about me have the right to say that it must be because I am trying to bolster my sense of self-worth.
I think about the decision I made about how to spend my afternoon today, and how I expect nothing from this other person except for him to be on the receiving end of oral sex. I don't expect him to become my boyfriend, secret lover, fwb. I don't expect him to brag about what I do to him to others, so that I can get the attention of others. I just want to enjoy myself; I'm doing this for me, not to prove anything to anyone or try to earn anything.
Isn't that lovely?
This bothers me. I don't doubt that there are girls out there doing just that. In fact, for some time I even thought that I was doing just that, because I heard it so often from people who didn't necessarily know how promiscuous I was, and I quietly sat and accepted the fact that my sexuality was probably a response to the need to feel wanted and valued. Sex is an easy way to get the attention, after all; it must have been my chosen method of coping with feelings of inadequacy as I matured.
I no longer think this is so.
I think I just always liked sex.
And I don't think that people who find that out about me have the right to say that it must be because I am trying to bolster my sense of self-worth.
I think about the decision I made about how to spend my afternoon today, and how I expect nothing from this other person except for him to be on the receiving end of oral sex. I don't expect him to become my boyfriend, secret lover, fwb. I don't expect him to brag about what I do to him to others, so that I can get the attention of others. I just want to enjoy myself; I'm doing this for me, not to prove anything to anyone or try to earn anything.
Isn't that lovely?