Lucid dreaming and loved ones (potentially triggering)

[stargazercmc]

Someone I care about committed suicide and was found last week. In the two weeks she went missing before we knew for sure what had happened, I had a lucid dream with her in it. In my dream, she appeared before me and I recognized that I was dreaming. I reached out to touch her, thinking that if I did so, it would make me wake up. I didn't. Instead

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[avahgdu]

I have great respect for the non fluffy part of your brain and feel that a healthy dose of reality checking is always good.

That said...As a medium, I have had this sort of dream visitation many times. And they are often talked about by others in the Blue Ridge Mountains where I grew up. Not witches, or even rootworkers, just every day folk often get such visits.

How do you know she did not visit any of her folks first? Or that she came to you because she attempted to visit them, or get their attention, and failed because they were not open to it.

Nothing says you ever have to make up your mind what it meant, or why it happened. You can just accept it as part of the experience of losing her and let it be if you wish. But in my opinion, it sounds like she wanted to reach out to someone, someone who could see her, and you were the one she chose for reasons she alone can ever know.

Please accept my sympathies on the loss of friend. We always feel we should have known something/done something with suicides. While in truth, sometimes there are no signs, or the signs are things we only recognize later.

[stargazercmc]

Thank you for your sympathies. It's been a very long, difficult week since we found out.

She knew I would be open to the idea of dream visitation. In the past, we had many frank discussions not only about her depression but also about my my great-aunt in relation to my dreams.

For what it's worth, I know of at least one other person who dreamed about her the same night I did. We discussed it the next morning. He's much more skeptical about dream visitation than I am, though, and his dream seemed much more disjointed in structure. In my dream, she was clearly telling me to let her go and that she couldn't stay. But that could go back to the whole "being open" thing; maybe she was reaching out to him as well but he threw up some subconscious blocks.

You're probably right - so much of me is trying to make sense of all this. While I'll never understand the choice she made, it was like I knew she was gone after that night and began the mourning process even before we received official word.