Punishment
There is a lot of talk in the community about punishment. People even seem to have it codified... if I do X, Master gives me 3 smacks with a wooden paddle.
I so cannot relate to that kind of dynamic. [Note to anyone bearing a big ol' shoulder chip: I'm not saying you are wrong for having this system. I just don't want it for myself. You're welcome to it, and I'd love to know why it works for you if that's how you do things. I'm just saying...}
Here is how it works in my world...
Master has expectations of me. Most of them are explicit, some of them so obvious as to not need to be explained. (honesty, respect, fidelity) When He requires something of me, I bust my ass to see that He gets it. And when I disappoint Him by failing in some task, I am devastated.
Honestly, I cannot see that any punishment He could devise for me would strengthen my desire to obey Him beyond where it is. I am intensely devoted to serving Him.
I am curious as to the experience of others is... Do you use punishment in your relationship? What form does it take? Is it effective? How do you feel before, during, after? Inquiring minds need to know.
I so cannot relate to that kind of dynamic. [Note to anyone bearing a big ol' shoulder chip: I'm not saying you are wrong for having this system. I just don't want it for myself. You're welcome to it, and I'd love to know why it works for you if that's how you do things. I'm just saying...}
Here is how it works in my world...
Master has expectations of me. Most of them are explicit, some of them so obvious as to not need to be explained. (honesty, respect, fidelity) When He requires something of me, I bust my ass to see that He gets it. And when I disappoint Him by failing in some task, I am devastated.
Honestly, I cannot see that any punishment He could devise for me would strengthen my desire to obey Him beyond where it is. I am intensely devoted to serving Him.
I am curious as to the experience of others is... Do you use punishment in your relationship? What form does it take? Is it effective? How do you feel before, during, after? Inquiring minds need to know.