Again
I'm posting this again cause I like discussion...& comments...
If you ask me a direct question about any of this, I will tell you the truth.
1. List 15 things you want to say to 15 DIFFERENT people but know you never will.
2. Don't say who they are.
15- You are a great person and I love you to death, but you seriously need to rethink your priorities. I understand-you’ve been hurt so many times in your life that you just want to get away from it, but you could go SO far in life. You could be such a success. But if you give up now and let the bad things in life pull you down, you won’t be able to go anywhere.
14- I know you’ve been through a lot and I know you don’t trust very many people, but I swear you can trust me. You’ve had reasons to be skeptical. People have let you down on so many occasions that it’s hard to know when you can trust someone. I have always been there for you even when you can’t talk to me directly. Please know that you can come to me.
13- I hate the person you have become. I have and always will be there for you, but I can’t say I agree with what you’re doing. When we were younger you were carefree, even if just for a day. You had a lot on your mind then, too, but you always seemed to put it behind you. Now you’re letting the bad things in life keep you down and you don’t take the time to look at the good. It seems like you love the pain. I try so hard to help you, but you don’t want to be helped. I feel like I don’t even exist to you…until something happens and you need me. I love you, but I don’t know if I can keep doing this. I want to be your friend always, but friendship goes both ways. I will always be there for you when you need me, but I don’t know how much longer I can count you as a friend. You will never know how hard this is on me, because I can never tell you this to your face. You are the best and the worst friend I have ever had, and I can’t seem to grasp the true meaning of who you are.
12- I wish we could see each other all the time! You have been probably the closest person I can trust. I have always been closer to you than anyone else, but I haven’t ever been able to tell you for fear that someone else would be offended. I know that whenever I need you, you’ll be there and you need to know that it will always be the same for you. I cannot imagine life without you and I hope I will never have to live that life, and it scares me to think that I might.
11- I know you have had a hard time, but you really need to have more confidence and also more discretion. You’re a beautiful, talented person, but you just don’t know how to act around people. Granted, you haven’t had much practice, but you need to get out and practice now. You are one of my closest friends, so trust in what I tell you. I’m not going to lie to you. A friend should never lie to another one for any reason, so I will speak the truth to you, even if it isn’t what you want to hear.
10- You are so amazing. I have always loved your spunk. I wish we could see each other more. I’ve missed you here at college. Know that I’ll always be here when you just need to rant. I miss seeing you every day and being able to just sit down and talk for the time we spend together. I hope that one day we will be able to do that again.
9- I can’t say there’s anyone here that I’m closer to. I was lucky to meet you last year & I am even more lucky that we haven’t fallen as far apart this year as I had expected. I have to say, though, that I wish we were closer. I am terrified that you’re just going to turn away and leave me because I just don’t know if you truly do like me. I know you say you do and sometimes you act like it, too…but I just feel like you just want me gone.
8- We have been through a lot together & you have gone through even more without me this year. I am here for you, even though I know you prefer to go through things alone. I am sorry if I’m around too much. I feel as if I’m always in your way, when I’m just trying to be your friend. I know that you are having a hard time dealing with your life right now, but you do have friends. If you don’t talk to me, please at least talk to someone who will give you an honest, objective opinion. You don’t need someone who is going to give you biased advice.
7- I’m sure you know I care, but I don’t think you can possibly know how much and I will NEVER be able to tell you. I’m just not that courageous. I wish I could be, but I’m not. Unless you ask me flat out, I won’t be able to come out and say it. However, if you do ask me, with the right wording, I will not lie to you. I wish I knew how you felt, because that would give me somewhere to go from here. I’m in a limbo right now-hanging on the balancing scales of doing too much and too little. There is a thin line when it comes to relationships, and I don’t even know where I stand right now. It would be great to have a sense of the extent of our friendship. I will probably never be as close to you as I may wish, but I will be content as long as we remain close friends.
6- I don’t know if I’ll ever truly be over you, but I’m getting better. I loved you for so long I just don’t know if that can go away. You were the one person I thought I could trust for a long time. I loved that, but I guess we’ll have to rebuild our friendship from the beginning.
5- I don’t even know where to start. I love you to death, but really I can’t stand the way you act around me! I am NOT your superior and you do NOT have to ask my permission to do EVERYTHING. If I say something is ok once, it is. Do NOT ask me over and over and over.
4- You are an amazing person and I wish I had known you longer. I can’t say I’m not attracted to you, but I know there’s no chance. I’m glad that we are such good friends, now, though. I hope it will stay that way. I love your easy-going manner, but I’m always a little afraid that I’m not exactly the friend you’re looking for.
3- When this year began, I thought you were very awkward and I could never speak to you. Now I wish I hadn’t been so judgmental. You’re a great friend.
2- I’m still not sure how you feel right now. You are so easy-going that I can never really tell how you’re really feeling. And I’m good at reading people, so that’s saying a lot. I know you were hurt, but I don’t agree with the way you decided to deal with it.
1- You’ve definitely cleaned your act up since last year. I definitely thought you were pretty sketchy. I’m glad that you are happy now, although I wish your new style was complete. I’m just glad to know I can trust you with my friend now, but you’d better not hurt her.
1. List 10 things you want to say to other people about yourself but know you never will.
10- I know that I am not always the most interesting/fun person to be around. I’m a pretty awkward, serious person and I don’t know how to stop that. I just can’t be a funny person! I try, but I just don’t have the sense of humor I know you all want me to. I just don’t understand why some things are funny. I’m sorry that I can’t be the person you want me to be. I know I’m boring, and it sucks…but that’s just who I am.
9- I wish that I could be less hypocritical. I know that I say things annoy me & I go right ahead and do them myself. I realize that I am doing that & I am so sorry! I am trying to fix that. If I am doing something like that, please call me out on that, otherwise I will never be able to fix it.
8- I am pretty annoying sometimes, and I’m sorry, but it’s just because I don’t want to lose you as friends. I know I hang out with you entirely too much, but I just can’t stand the thought that you might leave me for other friends. I guess I’m just jealous of the other friends you have. I respect that you have other friends, and if you didn’t I’d be worried, but I just get jealous because you don’t consider me as close as I consider you.
7- I wish I didn’t complain so much. I know it’s really annoying and unnecessary, but I can’t help that either. I have the whole “speak before I think” thing going on. I used to be very good at censoring what I say, but it just doesn’t happen anymore, so I’m sorry.
6- I guess I’m a little too stuck in the past. I have trouble looking at the good things I have in life right now & appreciating them. I’m so used to different things that I don’t quite know how to deal with my new personality. I don’t like change at all and right now I am the most changed person I know. I guess I’m just very disappointed in myself. More than I could ever have imagined I would be. I wish I could take back so much, or do more when I didn’t do anything.
5- I’m so upfront with what I believe, yet sometimes I pretend to agree because I don’t want people I care about to think badly of me. I’m doing exactly what I hate in other people so much. I’m sorry. I don’t know how to change it, but I’m going to try. In doing this, I’m going against everything I believe in. I believe in expressing what you think regardless of what other people think of you. Don’t push your views, but don’t lie about them either. I wish I had the guts to practice what I preach, though.
4- I wish I could keep in touch with people more easily! I have so many friends that I’ve promised to be there for, but I haven’t contacted them yet. I want to talk to them & I love them, but I just somehow haven’t found the time to send a simple IM or email. I’m sorry. I’ll try to do better.
3- I’ve become so apathetic this semester and it scares me. I don’t really FEEL…anything anymore. I feel a ghost of what I should be feeling. The only real emotion I feel right now is disappointment in myself. I have no motivation to do anything about it. I’m such a horrible person right now and I don’t have the spine or dedication to fix that. It bothers me, yet I am too apathetic to truly care. I don’t know what is happening to me, but if someone has the cure to apathy, please let me know?
2- I’m a very calculating person and I can easily pick out my flaws, but a lot of people believe that I’m putting myself down when I point them out. I’m really just trying to point out a fact of life, and I’m sorry if it seems like I’m fishing for compliments or encouragement, I’m not. I’m really just saying that I can’t do some things. Everyone has limitations and I know mine-and I have a lot. Who knows, maybe I am too hard on myself, but no one else is so I have to make up for it. I’m not saying I want bad/tough situations to happen, I’m just saying it would be good for me to have to deal with it. I’ve never had anything bad happen to me in my life and I have it coming soon. I’m terrified of it, but it has to happen sometime.
1- I guess I’m overall a negative person, and that’s not who I would like to be, nor is it who I think I really am. I guess I need to have a serious, personal, psychological make-over. Ok...yeah
If you ask me a direct question about any of this, I will tell you the truth.
1. List 15 things you want to say to 15 DIFFERENT people but know you never will.
2. Don't say who they are.
15- You are a great person and I love you to death, but you seriously need to rethink your priorities. I understand-you’ve been hurt so many times in your life that you just want to get away from it, but you could go SO far in life. You could be such a success. But if you give up now and let the bad things in life pull you down, you won’t be able to go anywhere.
14- I know you’ve been through a lot and I know you don’t trust very many people, but I swear you can trust me. You’ve had reasons to be skeptical. People have let you down on so many occasions that it’s hard to know when you can trust someone. I have always been there for you even when you can’t talk to me directly. Please know that you can come to me.
13- I hate the person you have become. I have and always will be there for you, but I can’t say I agree with what you’re doing. When we were younger you were carefree, even if just for a day. You had a lot on your mind then, too, but you always seemed to put it behind you. Now you’re letting the bad things in life keep you down and you don’t take the time to look at the good. It seems like you love the pain. I try so hard to help you, but you don’t want to be helped. I feel like I don’t even exist to you…until something happens and you need me. I love you, but I don’t know if I can keep doing this. I want to be your friend always, but friendship goes both ways. I will always be there for you when you need me, but I don’t know how much longer I can count you as a friend. You will never know how hard this is on me, because I can never tell you this to your face. You are the best and the worst friend I have ever had, and I can’t seem to grasp the true meaning of who you are.
12- I wish we could see each other all the time! You have been probably the closest person I can trust. I have always been closer to you than anyone else, but I haven’t ever been able to tell you for fear that someone else would be offended. I know that whenever I need you, you’ll be there and you need to know that it will always be the same for you. I cannot imagine life without you and I hope I will never have to live that life, and it scares me to think that I might.
11- I know you have had a hard time, but you really need to have more confidence and also more discretion. You’re a beautiful, talented person, but you just don’t know how to act around people. Granted, you haven’t had much practice, but you need to get out and practice now. You are one of my closest friends, so trust in what I tell you. I’m not going to lie to you. A friend should never lie to another one for any reason, so I will speak the truth to you, even if it isn’t what you want to hear.
10- You are so amazing. I have always loved your spunk. I wish we could see each other more. I’ve missed you here at college. Know that I’ll always be here when you just need to rant. I miss seeing you every day and being able to just sit down and talk for the time we spend together. I hope that one day we will be able to do that again.
9- I can’t say there’s anyone here that I’m closer to. I was lucky to meet you last year & I am even more lucky that we haven’t fallen as far apart this year as I had expected. I have to say, though, that I wish we were closer. I am terrified that you’re just going to turn away and leave me because I just don’t know if you truly do like me. I know you say you do and sometimes you act like it, too…but I just feel like you just want me gone.
8- We have been through a lot together & you have gone through even more without me this year. I am here for you, even though I know you prefer to go through things alone. I am sorry if I’m around too much. I feel as if I’m always in your way, when I’m just trying to be your friend. I know that you are having a hard time dealing with your life right now, but you do have friends. If you don’t talk to me, please at least talk to someone who will give you an honest, objective opinion. You don’t need someone who is going to give you biased advice.
7- I’m sure you know I care, but I don’t think you can possibly know how much and I will NEVER be able to tell you. I’m just not that courageous. I wish I could be, but I’m not. Unless you ask me flat out, I won’t be able to come out and say it. However, if you do ask me, with the right wording, I will not lie to you. I wish I knew how you felt, because that would give me somewhere to go from here. I’m in a limbo right now-hanging on the balancing scales of doing too much and too little. There is a thin line when it comes to relationships, and I don’t even know where I stand right now. It would be great to have a sense of the extent of our friendship. I will probably never be as close to you as I may wish, but I will be content as long as we remain close friends.
6- I don’t know if I’ll ever truly be over you, but I’m getting better. I loved you for so long I just don’t know if that can go away. You were the one person I thought I could trust for a long time. I loved that, but I guess we’ll have to rebuild our friendship from the beginning.
5- I don’t even know where to start. I love you to death, but really I can’t stand the way you act around me! I am NOT your superior and you do NOT have to ask my permission to do EVERYTHING. If I say something is ok once, it is. Do NOT ask me over and over and over.
4- You are an amazing person and I wish I had known you longer. I can’t say I’m not attracted to you, but I know there’s no chance. I’m glad that we are such good friends, now, though. I hope it will stay that way. I love your easy-going manner, but I’m always a little afraid that I’m not exactly the friend you’re looking for.
3- When this year began, I thought you were very awkward and I could never speak to you. Now I wish I hadn’t been so judgmental. You’re a great friend.
2- I’m still not sure how you feel right now. You are so easy-going that I can never really tell how you’re really feeling. And I’m good at reading people, so that’s saying a lot. I know you were hurt, but I don’t agree with the way you decided to deal with it.
1- You’ve definitely cleaned your act up since last year. I definitely thought you were pretty sketchy. I’m glad that you are happy now, although I wish your new style was complete. I’m just glad to know I can trust you with my friend now, but you’d better not hurt her.
1. List 10 things you want to say to other people about yourself but know you never will.
10- I know that I am not always the most interesting/fun person to be around. I’m a pretty awkward, serious person and I don’t know how to stop that. I just can’t be a funny person! I try, but I just don’t have the sense of humor I know you all want me to. I just don’t understand why some things are funny. I’m sorry that I can’t be the person you want me to be. I know I’m boring, and it sucks…but that’s just who I am.
9- I wish that I could be less hypocritical. I know that I say things annoy me & I go right ahead and do them myself. I realize that I am doing that & I am so sorry! I am trying to fix that. If I am doing something like that, please call me out on that, otherwise I will never be able to fix it.
8- I am pretty annoying sometimes, and I’m sorry, but it’s just because I don’t want to lose you as friends. I know I hang out with you entirely too much, but I just can’t stand the thought that you might leave me for other friends. I guess I’m just jealous of the other friends you have. I respect that you have other friends, and if you didn’t I’d be worried, but I just get jealous because you don’t consider me as close as I consider you.
7- I wish I didn’t complain so much. I know it’s really annoying and unnecessary, but I can’t help that either. I have the whole “speak before I think” thing going on. I used to be very good at censoring what I say, but it just doesn’t happen anymore, so I’m sorry.
6- I guess I’m a little too stuck in the past. I have trouble looking at the good things I have in life right now & appreciating them. I’m so used to different things that I don’t quite know how to deal with my new personality. I don’t like change at all and right now I am the most changed person I know. I guess I’m just very disappointed in myself. More than I could ever have imagined I would be. I wish I could take back so much, or do more when I didn’t do anything.
5- I’m so upfront with what I believe, yet sometimes I pretend to agree because I don’t want people I care about to think badly of me. I’m doing exactly what I hate in other people so much. I’m sorry. I don’t know how to change it, but I’m going to try. In doing this, I’m going against everything I believe in. I believe in expressing what you think regardless of what other people think of you. Don’t push your views, but don’t lie about them either. I wish I had the guts to practice what I preach, though.
4- I wish I could keep in touch with people more easily! I have so many friends that I’ve promised to be there for, but I haven’t contacted them yet. I want to talk to them & I love them, but I just somehow haven’t found the time to send a simple IM or email. I’m sorry. I’ll try to do better.
3- I’ve become so apathetic this semester and it scares me. I don’t really FEEL…anything anymore. I feel a ghost of what I should be feeling. The only real emotion I feel right now is disappointment in myself. I have no motivation to do anything about it. I’m such a horrible person right now and I don’t have the spine or dedication to fix that. It bothers me, yet I am too apathetic to truly care. I don’t know what is happening to me, but if someone has the cure to apathy, please let me know?
2- I’m a very calculating person and I can easily pick out my flaws, but a lot of people believe that I’m putting myself down when I point them out. I’m really just trying to point out a fact of life, and I’m sorry if it seems like I’m fishing for compliments or encouragement, I’m not. I’m really just saying that I can’t do some things. Everyone has limitations and I know mine-and I have a lot. Who knows, maybe I am too hard on myself, but no one else is so I have to make up for it. I’m not saying I want bad/tough situations to happen, I’m just saying it would be good for me to have to deal with it. I’ve never had anything bad happen to me in my life and I have it coming soon. I’m terrified of it, but it has to happen sometime.
1- I guess I’m overall a negative person, and that’s not who I would like to be, nor is it who I think I really am. I guess I need to have a serious, personal, psychological make-over. Ok...yeah