Someone shared the same video over in gsa_lj community. WRT the "I'd prefer my son not to wear dresses" comment, "barf" is about right. That woman is an idiot.
i think this was probably a good exchange to have on air. with the exception of the one woman, everyone at the table is supportive of kids expressing themselves in whatever way they feel comfortable.
i would have liked to see her questioned more about why she thinks it's inappropriate for her son to wear a dress. i can understand the impulse for a parent to "protect" their child in situations where they think their child might be teased or bullied by other children, but there's obviously more to it in this case. she obviously believes it's wrong, but never explores her reasoning behind that. i imagine it's the usual homophobia/transphobia/sexism... they're all interrelated. and i think these are the things that need to be challenged and questioned.
exactly it's just a "because i said so statement". and you're talking to other adults about a behavior you would not allow your child to do you use logic and you give explanations, you don't just say "because i said so".
i agree with Leon on this one. Just from my own experience. She's echoing a lot of what people in my family have said or would say if I asked them today. And even though she didn't say it on the air it's clear that she'd be against her son being gay. She'd play the I'll love you, you're still my son as long as you don't "act gay" card.
I don't like the comment but that's truly how she feels and it's how a lot of non-trans people feel when it comes to their children. They want their kids to "act normal" and for whatever reason cross-dressing is one of the most un-normal thing a child can do.
In a lot of African- American communities there's this "not my child" attitude when it comes to parenting. They look at larger society and the stances white parents take on certain things like "that's fine for ya'll but ain't no way in hell I'm letting my kid talk to me like that, or act like in public or dress like that." It's almost a cry of solidarity amongst African-American mothers.
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least barbara loves the trannies :)
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i would have liked to see her questioned more about why she thinks it's inappropriate for her son to wear a dress. i can understand the impulse for a parent to "protect" their child in situations where they think their child might be teased or bullied by other children, but there's obviously more to it in this case. she obviously believes it's wrong, but never explores her reasoning behind that. i imagine it's the usual homophobia/transphobia/sexism... they're all interrelated. and i think these are the things that need to be challenged and questioned.
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i do understand where you're coming from though, especially being from an ethnic family myself.
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And even though she didn't say it on the air it's clear that she'd be against her son being gay. She'd play the I'll love you, you're still my son as long as you don't "act gay" card.
I don't like the comment but that's truly how she feels and it's how a lot of non-trans people feel when it comes to their children. They want their kids to "act normal" and for whatever reason cross-dressing is one of the most un-normal thing a child can do.
In a lot of African- American communities there's this "not my child" attitude when it comes to parenting. They look at larger society and the stances white parents take on certain things like "that's fine for ya'll but ain't no way in hell I'm letting my kid talk to me like that, or act like in public or dress like that." It's almost a cry of solidarity amongst African-American mothers.
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