I know that this may sound harsh to you, but I really think that you should talk to someone (either a professional or someone you trust very much). In a relationship, whether if it's love relationship, family or friendship, sometimes you should be more selfish. What I mean by selfish is to ask for something. In all relationship there is a give and take action. You have to give something and in turn you have to receive something back. In this case, you and your friend should really try to find a time during weekend or at night to talk to your best friend. Tell her " I really need your help", I'm sure she'd be glad to help. I live so far away from home in a faraway country, I also encountered lots of challenges. When I am at my limit, I'd schedule a call with a friend or my mom. Mind you, it's not an instantaneous chat, I have to schedule it, but this works for me. I'd ask them to listen to my stories and complaints and cry in front of them and In turn, whenever they feels depressed, I'd do the same for them. I'd listen to her stories and if they ask me for my opinion, I'd give them one.
I am an introvert as well, but I strongly believe that we should ask for help when we need one. No matter how embarrassing my problem is, I'd ask for help. You can convey your feelings all you want on the internet, but I'm sure your best friend and your closest people know you more and care for you more than any of us anonymous people here. You probably feel lonely right now and you feel so alone, but if you reach out, you'll be surprised at how many people are willing to help you and listen to your stories.
I wish you all the best, and I hope it gets better. Please do seek help!
thank you so much babe. your idea is the best. maybe I'll chat my best friend (who finally moving away from our city to another part of my country as she married) I will make schedule as you said. I think that is the best idea. yes I feel lonely most of time, but as I always make my self stronger as I still have arashi encouraging songs and videos, and of course my arashian friends and the fanfics. lol
In these time I always endure my heart broke or any other hurt or sad thing happened. I think I will tell my misery to my husband after we get married (as he doesnt want me to tell him all of my secrets yet. We want to start everything after get married, as both of us still like our freedom for a while). But yeah, these days or maybe weeks I feel really lonely. And as you said, I need someone who know me well to listen my problems.
No problem. I hope everything will get better. I know you are a strong person and I believe you're the type who always want to help people, you're your friends, family and lovers' strength and I'm sure some of them would love to be your strength as well.
Yes, I also cheer myself through watching Arashi's videos and listening to their songs. It makes me feel better. If things turn bad, I always remind myself that even superstars like Arashi went through bad times, especially in the past. Hard-work, prayers and hope are definitely their motto.
"Smile again 泣きながら 生れてきた僕たちはたぶんピンチに強い"
"Smile again, we were born while crying But we're probably strong in a pinch"
I hope so. I've chatting with my best friend yesterday. but well, she also have tough moment now. She still newly wedd phase, and she feel weird about the change in her life. She also try to be stronger, so I must also became stronger than before. I just make little chat of some of my problems, she make me better. but well, I think I need someone to hug (my family rarely hug each other, the best hugger is my lil sis, but she still far away to study became teacher, I miss her too). I also try to talk with my lover, now he start to help the wedding more.
yes, of course, arashi is the source of our happiness when our RL is hard. They are work hard for years, as satoshi also surpress his happiness for fans for years. They are much stronger than we think. Not only satoshi, the other members must be have their own worry but they work hard to make everything better.
And as you said. I love to arashi because of their happy songs. If they dont have it, I dont think I will be their fans. lol. All of their songs is great.
I am an introvert as well, but I strongly believe that we should ask for help when we need one. No matter how embarrassing my problem is, I'd ask for help.
You can convey your feelings all you want on the internet, but I'm sure your best friend and your closest people know you more and care for you more than any of us anonymous people here. You probably feel lonely right now and you feel so alone, but if you reach out, you'll be surprised at how many people are willing to help you and listen to your stories.
I wish you all the best, and I hope it gets better. Please do seek help!
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maybe I'll chat my best friend (who finally moving away from our city to another part of my country as she married) I will make schedule as you said. I think that is the best idea. yes I feel lonely most of time, but as I always make my self stronger as I still have arashi encouraging songs and videos, and of course my arashian friends and the fanfics. lol
In these time I always endure my heart broke or any other hurt or sad thing happened. I think I will tell my misery to my husband after we get married (as he doesnt want me to tell him all of my secrets yet. We want to start everything after get married, as both of us still like our freedom for a while). But yeah, these days or maybe weeks I feel really lonely. And as you said, I need someone who know me well to listen my problems.
Thank you so much babe <3
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Yes, I also cheer myself through watching Arashi's videos and listening to their songs. It makes me feel better. If things turn bad, I always remind myself that even superstars like Arashi went through bad times, especially in the past. Hard-work, prayers and hope are definitely their motto.
"Smile again 泣きながら
生れてきた僕たちはたぶんピンチに強い"
"Smile again, we were born while crying
But we're probably strong in a pinch"
-Kansha Kangeki Ame Arashi-Arashi
ganbatte!
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I've chatting with my best friend yesterday. but well, she also have tough moment now. She still newly wedd phase, and she feel weird about the change in her life. She also try to be stronger, so I must also became stronger than before. I just make little chat of some of my problems, she make me better. but well, I think I need someone to hug (my family rarely hug each other, the best hugger is my lil sis, but she still far away to study became teacher, I miss her too). I also try to talk with my lover, now he start to help the wedding more.
yes, of course, arashi is the source of our happiness when our RL is hard. They are work hard for years, as satoshi also surpress his happiness for fans for years. They are much stronger than we think. Not only satoshi, the other members must be have their own worry but they work hard to make everything better.
And as you said. I love to arashi because of their happy songs. If they dont have it, I dont think I will be their fans. lol. All of their songs is great.
ganbarimasu!!!
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