I want to thank you for coming forward with your honest feelings regarding everything that's happened. I wish that I hadn't alienated you so much so that you feel uncomfortable coming to me directly--and I apologize for that ): I'm ashamed that I've disappointed you so thoroughly and I never meant to "demand" anything from you guys (other than to encourage heroes to take villains more seriously & act together as a team to overcome them).
I didn't mean to make opt-out victimization. I only suggested possible ways for people to opt out (and Pan volunteered Yuki doing something).
What I do worry about is your comment "it feels like you're too caught up in this to realize you're ignoring anyone with an opposing view's feelings."
I've held an OOC discussion post, 2 polls, asked people to come forward & tell me if there's a way to fix things or change them entirely, held a plot chat with ~20 people who were available to discuss issues that were brought up in the discussion post (many of them heroes or general characters not aligned with villains). I've expressed repeatedly that I want to hear what everyone thinks and if they have ideas to come forward: I was willing to drop the first draft of the plot to let the heroes do what they wished without my involvement but it seemed that many people preferred a compromise between Riful acting & Heroes Initiating.
Does all this not fall under "listening to anyone with opposing views" or did I go about trying to understand opposing peoples' viewpoints and concerns wrong? Have I made errors in trying to accommodate for everyone since the first post?
I appreciate the criticism you've given me--truly I do. And I beg of you now, please: answer some of my questions (if this is anonmice). You have pointed out many areas where I'm at fault in your eyes and while this is definitely one half of the critiquing problem...the other half is helping me. Giving me ideas and possible solutions on how I can improve, how I can fix things. I need help, and I can't do this alone.
I know you feel strongly about all of this and I know you're upset... Critiquing someone's flaws without trying in some manner to help them overcome them or improve (or when it appears that way) makes things really harsh. I mean, I appreciate your concerns and feelings immensely. It's just hard to come out of it all knowing how and where to improve when it's driven in over and over: just the flaws.
"I want to start off by saying I know other people have expressed the same concerns I have. I still feel you should hear them from me since I feel that this entire situation has given me a negative opinion of you."
It's your right to say this and I respect that. I just need you to know that it does feel hurtful (and my feelings are hurt, not solely by you) when people feel the need to repeat it over. Pointing out the issues once is fine, but repeating them when I've tried to acknowledge them & understand them feels cruel to me. I don't want to diminish or dispute the validity of what you're saying...I just wish that I was able to detect more constructive criticism in your words.
I will take them to heart and do my best to improve, but again...I'm begging you. Please. Please--tell me what I can do, no matter how silly or redundant you think the idea is, or that I should already know it...just tell me what you think would improve the areas you think I fail in. I can't do this alone...I need your help.
I didn't mean to make opt-out victimization. I only suggested possible ways for people to opt out (and Pan volunteered Yuki doing something).
What I do worry about is your comment "it feels like you're too caught up in this to realize you're ignoring anyone with an opposing view's feelings."
I've held an OOC discussion post, 2 polls, asked people to come forward & tell me if there's a way to fix things or change them entirely, held a plot chat with ~20 people who were available to discuss issues that were brought up in the discussion post (many of them heroes or general characters not aligned with villains). I've expressed repeatedly that I want to hear what everyone thinks and if they have ideas to come forward: I was willing to drop the first draft of the plot to let the heroes do what they wished without my involvement but it seemed that many people preferred a compromise between Riful acting & Heroes Initiating.
Does all this not fall under "listening to anyone with opposing views" or did I go about trying to understand opposing peoples' viewpoints and concerns wrong? Have I made errors in trying to accommodate for everyone since the first post?
I appreciate the criticism you've given me--truly I do. And I beg of you now, please: answer some of my questions (if this is anonmice). You have pointed out many areas where I'm at fault in your eyes and while this is definitely one half of the critiquing problem...the other half is helping me. Giving me ideas and possible solutions on how I can improve, how I can fix things. I need help, and I can't do this alone.
I know you feel strongly about all of this and I know you're upset... Critiquing someone's flaws without trying in some manner to help them overcome them or improve (or when it appears that way) makes things really harsh. I mean, I appreciate your concerns and feelings immensely. It's just hard to come out of it all knowing how and where to improve when it's driven in over and over: just the flaws.
"I want to start off by saying I know other people have expressed the same concerns I have. I still feel you should hear them from me since I feel that this entire situation has given me a negative opinion of you."
It's your right to say this and I respect that. I just need you to know that it does feel hurtful (and my feelings are hurt, not solely by you) when people feel the need to repeat it over. Pointing out the issues once is fine, but repeating them when I've tried to acknowledge them & understand them feels cruel to me. I don't want to diminish or dispute the validity of what you're saying...I just wish that I was able to detect more constructive criticism in your words.
I will take them to heart and do my best to improve, but again...I'm begging you. Please. Please--tell me what I can do, no matter how silly or redundant you think the idea is, or that I should already know it...just tell me what you think would improve the areas you think I fail in. I can't do this alone...I need your help.
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