Good Read on Underlying Marriage Issues . .
In summary of this article, it's often the people involved and their inability to compromise and expend the effort that causes issues, not simply failure to communicate. In more detail . .
1. People begin their relationships based on each other in the present. They really must recognize who they want to become and whether that is their ideal mate.
2. We are all lonely. We must be comfortable with that loneliness by ourselves instead of relying solely on another person to combat it. Then we can choose to be with someone for whom they are and enjoy their company for what it is.
3. We must be secure with who we are. If we are not, we will blame our partners for simply pointing out what already exists.
4. We must be humble. We must be open, forgiving, responsible, vulnerable, and tactful instead of defensive, vengeful, blaming, proud, and macho.
5. Life can suck all by itself. We all need to simply make the best of it.
6. A person cannot be angry and caring at the same time. We must be willing to care for our partner first and take the risk.
7. Family is the most important thing in life, but remember that one's partner is also family.
8. There is almost always an imbalance of interdependence. The key is to communicate one's expectations and be willing to compromise with one's partner.
9. Focus and dedication is a key aspect of monogamy. Real life makes those hard. We must cultivate our power of the mind to keep focused and dedicated.
To overcome the issues . .
"It’s a lifetime that forms us into people who are becoming ever more loving versions of ourselves, who can bear the weight of loneliness, who have released the weight of shame, who have traded in walls for bridges, who have embraced the mess of being alive, who risk empathy and forgive disappointments, who love everyone with equal fervor, who give and take and compromise, and who have dedicated themselves to a lifetime of presence and awareness and attentiveness."
1. People begin their relationships based on each other in the present. They really must recognize who they want to become and whether that is their ideal mate.
2. We are all lonely. We must be comfortable with that loneliness by ourselves instead of relying solely on another person to combat it. Then we can choose to be with someone for whom they are and enjoy their company for what it is.
3. We must be secure with who we are. If we are not, we will blame our partners for simply pointing out what already exists.
4. We must be humble. We must be open, forgiving, responsible, vulnerable, and tactful instead of defensive, vengeful, blaming, proud, and macho.
5. Life can suck all by itself. We all need to simply make the best of it.
6. A person cannot be angry and caring at the same time. We must be willing to care for our partner first and take the risk.
7. Family is the most important thing in life, but remember that one's partner is also family.
8. There is almost always an imbalance of interdependence. The key is to communicate one's expectations and be willing to compromise with one's partner.
9. Focus and dedication is a key aspect of monogamy. Real life makes those hard. We must cultivate our power of the mind to keep focused and dedicated.
To overcome the issues . .
"It’s a lifetime that forms us into people who are becoming ever more loving versions of ourselves, who can bear the weight of loneliness, who have released the weight of shame, who have traded in walls for bridges, who have embraced the mess of being alive, who risk empathy and forgive disappointments, who love everyone with equal fervor, who give and take and compromise, and who have dedicated themselves to a lifetime of presence and awareness and attentiveness."