This weekend...
This weekend should be interesting. I'm either going to go up to Maryland so I can be there for when my new niece is born, or I'm going to Tennessee to meet his daughter for the first time. Either way, this weekend will involve meeting someone for the first time.
More than likely, we won't be traveling to Maryland. As much as I would like to be there, it makes more sense for us to wait right now. We'll be going up for a visit in a few weeks anyway, and if everything goes okay, they won't really need me to come up before then anyway. Plus, financially, it makes more sense to just wait. So, as long as everything goes okay with her appointment on Thursday and they still plan on having her deliver on Monday, then I'll be headed to Tennessee this weekend instead.
That being said...I'm really not sure how I feel about the Tennessee trip. I will be meeting his ex-wife and daughter for the first time. He hasn't seen his daughter in person since she was in diapers, and she's 12 now. Her mom wants her to be able to come spend a few weeks with us in the summer, but I refuse to agree to that until I meet her. There is no way that I'm having her come out here and stay with us without having met her first. Thankfully, her mother understood.
I suggested that we go to Tennessee for the weekend instead of them coming here. If they came here, they'd have to stay with us and if things didn't go well, then it would just be awkward for everyone (as if its not awkward enough for me as it is). Instead, we'll be leaving on Saturday morning, driving to Tennessee (its only about 4 hours from here), staying overnight in a hotel and driving home the next day. This way, if things don't go well, at least we'll have a hotel to go back to.
Provided everything goes okay, they'll come out and see us next...either in February or March. We'll probably meet again before the decisions on summer are finalized. I really want her to be as comfortable with me as possible since she'll spend most of her time with me. I'm just really not sure how ready I am for this...but then again, I'll probably never be "ready". I guess we'll just have to see how it goes.
More than likely, we won't be traveling to Maryland. As much as I would like to be there, it makes more sense for us to wait right now. We'll be going up for a visit in a few weeks anyway, and if everything goes okay, they won't really need me to come up before then anyway. Plus, financially, it makes more sense to just wait. So, as long as everything goes okay with her appointment on Thursday and they still plan on having her deliver on Monday, then I'll be headed to Tennessee this weekend instead.
That being said...I'm really not sure how I feel about the Tennessee trip. I will be meeting his ex-wife and daughter for the first time. He hasn't seen his daughter in person since she was in diapers, and she's 12 now. Her mom wants her to be able to come spend a few weeks with us in the summer, but I refuse to agree to that until I meet her. There is no way that I'm having her come out here and stay with us without having met her first. Thankfully, her mother understood.
I suggested that we go to Tennessee for the weekend instead of them coming here. If they came here, they'd have to stay with us and if things didn't go well, then it would just be awkward for everyone (as if its not awkward enough for me as it is). Instead, we'll be leaving on Saturday morning, driving to Tennessee (its only about 4 hours from here), staying overnight in a hotel and driving home the next day. This way, if things don't go well, at least we'll have a hotel to go back to.
Provided everything goes okay, they'll come out and see us next...either in February or March. We'll probably meet again before the decisions on summer are finalized. I really want her to be as comfortable with me as possible since she'll spend most of her time with me. I'm just really not sure how ready I am for this...but then again, I'll probably never be "ready". I guess we'll just have to see how it goes.