jan11: listen
I remember being 22. And meeting people who couldn't stand other people. I feel strange around them, but I try to see it as a lesson: what about these people can I find pleasant without judging them? and what is it that they're saying that unnerves me so, and why?
maybe it's a passive stance, but I don't see it as my place to tell them how to think. we can agree to disagree, i think. they don't like something i like -- okay. but i enjoy what i enjoy fine. and that is my right.
actually, writing this out makes me think of a couple things: when a friend specifically tried to change my perspective on certain people who were in my life, and when i was visiting another friend and they too tried to change my perspective on how i should live my life. both situations were a bit odd--but the first one i could see the humor in, while the other i was more emotionally confused by. of course, the first situation happened a lot later than the second one, so it explains, thus, the more calm-cool-collected approach.
i don't know if it's better to be more hotheaded about such things: to rage more passionately and to fight more vehemently, to disagree more openly and more violently. i guess what i'm trying to say is, what i'm learning is that sometimes the hardest task in any given situation is to listen, appreciate, understand and respect. Not completely give in and alter one's opinion based on the other person's preference -- but to see where they are coming from.
it's not easy.
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down to the last scene to score for TGD, and then it's finetuning the mix! yes! : )
maybe it's a passive stance, but I don't see it as my place to tell them how to think. we can agree to disagree, i think. they don't like something i like -- okay. but i enjoy what i enjoy fine. and that is my right.
actually, writing this out makes me think of a couple things: when a friend specifically tried to change my perspective on certain people who were in my life, and when i was visiting another friend and they too tried to change my perspective on how i should live my life. both situations were a bit odd--but the first one i could see the humor in, while the other i was more emotionally confused by. of course, the first situation happened a lot later than the second one, so it explains, thus, the more calm-cool-collected approach.
i don't know if it's better to be more hotheaded about such things: to rage more passionately and to fight more vehemently, to disagree more openly and more violently. i guess what i'm trying to say is, what i'm learning is that sometimes the hardest task in any given situation is to listen, appreciate, understand and respect. Not completely give in and alter one's opinion based on the other person's preference -- but to see where they are coming from.
it's not easy.
...
down to the last scene to score for TGD, and then it's finetuning the mix! yes! : )