never underestinmate human stupidity
as the title would lead one to believe, i would very much like to take this moment to comment on human stupidity.
yes, i know how stupid people are. extremely. but it comes as quite a shock when someone close to you is being so stupid that i don't consider it worth it to phrase it as 'silly' or 'not the best idea'. no. stupid isn't even a strong enough term. perhaps 'moronic' or 'idiotic' would work better.
i don't recommend clicking that and reading further on this. basically, it's just me being angry and venting.
and it's really not a pleasant topic. at all. don't worry, there is nothing wrong with me. i'm not being pissed at my parents over college or something lame like that.
marie is being STUPID. (marie is my aunt, btw)
marie is very religious. i respect that. but with her current situation, relying on God to fix this is not gonna work. it's not good enough. marie should get her head examined. she's in denial. it may have worked out for her in the past, but not this time. she needs to get it into her head that she has to take action. now
by this point, i'm sure you're very confused. i haven't really said whats going on. just that marie is being stupid.
ok, here's how it's goin' down. marie has melanoma(skin cancer). this will be her third run-in with cancer of any kind. she's been extremely lucky to survive her past two experiences. and both times, she let it run waaaay too long before having something done about it. basically, her first time with cancer she would've died if her husband didn't take her to the emergency room when he did. so basically, we have bobby to thank for that. marie wasn't gonna do anything about it. (btw, that time it was ovarian cancer. thats a bad one. apparently very few people who get it survive) second time, (this was like...3 years ago i think) it was lymphoma. she had some symptoms of that for...i dunno a year before she finally got it checked out and got chemo and whatnot. and i'm pretty sure it was late in the game when she went. like stage 4 (stage 4 = cancer has spread to other parts of the body). at any rate, generally if you've gotten to stage 4 you're screwed. luckily, the chemo did the trick and she evaded death once again.
now, this is what gets me. the first signs of melanoma (what she has now) were visible, get this, BEFORE SHE WENT TO CHEMO FOR LYMPHOMA. THAT WAS THREE YEARS AGO. SHE'S BEEN IGNORING THIS FOR THREE YEARS.
so basically. marie has a massive tumor on her big toe. she first saw some of what appeared to be bruising three years ago. went to the dermatologist or whatever, they said it was probably just a bruise. they go away pretty quickly, yeah? two weeks maybe? well it didn't go away in two weeks (obviously) so anyways, we first found out about marie's toe...like this year-ish? first time i saw it was around graduation. so anyways, when we first saw it then, for some unknown reason we were all under the impression that it was a very odd fungal infection or something like that. so anyway, massive tumor. she had it cut out like two weeks ago. they biopsied it. melanoma. this was two weeks ago, yeah. so, massive tumor bye bye. two weeks ago. the took it out. so her toe should be back to normal, right? wrong. IN THE TWO WEEKS IT HAS GROWN BACK. marie seems to think that it's just her toe healing. it's a fucking malignant tumor the size of a marshmallow on her toe. so anywho, her doctor sent her to some other surgeon dude. and he wants to amputate the toe. pretend this was you, for a second. your tumor grew back in two weeks. you'd want the toe gone, right? thats only logical. you'd tell the guy, hell yeah, cut it off. nope. marie doesn't want to do it. she was extremely rude to this doctor guy. she wouldn't let him talk. she wouldn't let him explain what he wanted to do. he's there to help her, and she's not even giving him a chance. she wouldn't even let him tell her what stage it was. and at this point, it's vital information. she was awful to him. y'know how i said she was religious? she told this man that only God can heal her, and he's not God, so he can't heal her. me and mom agree, if we were that doctor we would have walked out. well, if i can't heal you, i think i'll go help people who want me to help them.
so next day, the guys secretary calls marie to set up an appointment. so they can do the whole 'chop of your toe' thing. she refused her. she said no to the secretary. no, i want nothing to do with that doctor. no. the secretary was so confused. obviously, this surgery has the potential to save her life, an marie doesn't want to do it. she's more concerned about her kids, and if she'll be able to drive or need special shoes afterwards. marie, your kids are adults. they can handle it. tell them why dontcha? maybe they'll knock some sense into you. 'ma, you should do the surgery. that doctor can help you.' and i think her life is a bit more important than not being able to drive for a month or having to spend an extra twenty bucks for the special shoes.
oh. and i forgot. she's not answering her phone now. her sisters and her mother are trying to call her. she doesn't answer. she says that they're all "bad energy" or "bad chii" or some other bullshit. so her sister and mother are concerned about her? thats such bad energy. it's your negativity thats gonna kill me, not the tumor that grew back in two weeks. nope. so she didn't tell her mother what's going on. she hasn't told her kids whats going on. oh, i lied. she told one kid. but she told him she had melanoma. they cut it off.
so, marie needs to grow up or she's gonna die.
grr. but what really gets me is that she's been ignoring it for THREE YEARS. it started out looking like a bruise under her toenail. why the fuck didn't she do something when it didn't go away and started to grow and whatnot. bruises don't turn into tumors overnight and she had THREE YEARS to deal with this. if she fucking did something when it first got icky and tumor-y she wouldn't be in this entire mess. it would have been dealt with early on when THE DOCTORS CAN ACTUALLY TREAT IT.
a note to anyone who has read this. if you notice something weird on your body and it doesn't go away GO TO A FUCKING DOCTOR AND GET IT TAKEN CARE OF BEFORE IT GETS BAD.
don't be a moron.
cancer is pretty bad in the first place, but it's worse if you don't catch it until it's later stages. catch it early on!
damnit! and marie makes fun of my mom (and barbara too) for getting her annual mammograms and pap smears and colonoscopies and whatnot. she makes fun of her for making sure she catches any signs of cancer early on. AND she jumps on her whenever random shit happens. "oh, dr. mcaffe found a lump in your arm, get a petscan right away!" but whenever he says "marie, it's time for your 6-month petscan" she refuses him! he wants her to get one done every six months. she says maybe she'll get one done every two years. if mom had the toe tumor marie would say "liz, you get that toe chopped off" but when it's her she just wants radiation. IT'S TOO FUCKING LATE FOR RADIATION MARIE. MAYBE IF YOU DID SOMETHING TWO YEARS AGO RADIATION WOULD'VE SUFFICED! BUT NO, YOU WAITED THREE FUCKING YEARS.
huh. this turned out longer than i intended. i keep thing of other things that pisses me off.
so, trying to tie this up.
marie thinks Jesus is gonna heal her cancer, and therefore refuses the help of talented surgeons that work at mass general hospital, which is so world renowned that in the lobby they have all the info up in just about every language you could think of. people come from OTHER COUNTRIES to get the treatment that she can get fifteen minutes away from her house. she is so lucky to be getting the treatment she is. if she needs dr. mcaffe for anything at all, she can call up and she'll have an appointment for like next week. some people probably have to wait months to be able to see doctors there! and she's gonna get everything she needs right away! what the hell is wrong with her?! this could KILL HER! and she's not doing everything she can to live!
she hasn't told her children! if she continues being an idiot, she'll end up dying randomly, and we'll have to call her kids. "heeey...your mom died....hehe she didn't tell you, but she was really sick. sorry you're not really prepared for this at all. sorry last time you saw her she was kind bitchy towards you." and mike might not even be home! he might be going on some random month-and-a-half-long trip to somewhere random. so we might not even be able to fucking reach him! "hey mike, welcome back. interesting this happened...two days after you left your mom died. yeah, you kinda missed the funeral. sorry"
how stupid can you be! she didn't let the doctor tell her what stage she's in, she's stopped taking calls from her sisters and mother, she didn't even tell her kids OR mother whats going on, and she's refusing the help of a brilliant surgeon who could very well be saving her life by cutting off her toe.
i'm sorry marie, but this is the stupidest thing you've ever done.
you've been stupid in the past.
but this takes the cake.
yes, i know how stupid people are. extremely. but it comes as quite a shock when someone close to you is being so stupid that i don't consider it worth it to phrase it as 'silly' or 'not the best idea'. no. stupid isn't even a strong enough term. perhaps 'moronic' or 'idiotic' would work better.
i don't recommend clicking that and reading further on this. basically, it's just me being angry and venting.
and it's really not a pleasant topic. at all. don't worry, there is nothing wrong with me. i'm not being pissed at my parents over college or something lame like that.
marie is being STUPID. (marie is my aunt, btw)
marie is very religious. i respect that. but with her current situation, relying on God to fix this is not gonna work. it's not good enough. marie should get her head examined. she's in denial. it may have worked out for her in the past, but not this time. she needs to get it into her head that she has to take action. now
by this point, i'm sure you're very confused. i haven't really said whats going on. just that marie is being stupid.
ok, here's how it's goin' down. marie has melanoma(skin cancer). this will be her third run-in with cancer of any kind. she's been extremely lucky to survive her past two experiences. and both times, she let it run waaaay too long before having something done about it. basically, her first time with cancer she would've died if her husband didn't take her to the emergency room when he did. so basically, we have bobby to thank for that. marie wasn't gonna do anything about it. (btw, that time it was ovarian cancer. thats a bad one. apparently very few people who get it survive) second time, (this was like...3 years ago i think) it was lymphoma. she had some symptoms of that for...i dunno a year before she finally got it checked out and got chemo and whatnot. and i'm pretty sure it was late in the game when she went. like stage 4 (stage 4 = cancer has spread to other parts of the body). at any rate, generally if you've gotten to stage 4 you're screwed. luckily, the chemo did the trick and she evaded death once again.
now, this is what gets me. the first signs of melanoma (what she has now) were visible, get this, BEFORE SHE WENT TO CHEMO FOR LYMPHOMA. THAT WAS THREE YEARS AGO. SHE'S BEEN IGNORING THIS FOR THREE YEARS.
so basically. marie has a massive tumor on her big toe. she first saw some of what appeared to be bruising three years ago. went to the dermatologist or whatever, they said it was probably just a bruise. they go away pretty quickly, yeah? two weeks maybe? well it didn't go away in two weeks (obviously) so anyways, we first found out about marie's toe...like this year-ish? first time i saw it was around graduation. so anyways, when we first saw it then, for some unknown reason we were all under the impression that it was a very odd fungal infection or something like that. so anyway, massive tumor. she had it cut out like two weeks ago. they biopsied it. melanoma. this was two weeks ago, yeah. so, massive tumor bye bye. two weeks ago. the took it out. so her toe should be back to normal, right? wrong. IN THE TWO WEEKS IT HAS GROWN BACK. marie seems to think that it's just her toe healing. it's a fucking malignant tumor the size of a marshmallow on her toe. so anywho, her doctor sent her to some other surgeon dude. and he wants to amputate the toe. pretend this was you, for a second. your tumor grew back in two weeks. you'd want the toe gone, right? thats only logical. you'd tell the guy, hell yeah, cut it off. nope. marie doesn't want to do it. she was extremely rude to this doctor guy. she wouldn't let him talk. she wouldn't let him explain what he wanted to do. he's there to help her, and she's not even giving him a chance. she wouldn't even let him tell her what stage it was. and at this point, it's vital information. she was awful to him. y'know how i said she was religious? she told this man that only God can heal her, and he's not God, so he can't heal her. me and mom agree, if we were that doctor we would have walked out. well, if i can't heal you, i think i'll go help people who want me to help them.
so next day, the guys secretary calls marie to set up an appointment. so they can do the whole 'chop of your toe' thing. she refused her. she said no to the secretary. no, i want nothing to do with that doctor. no. the secretary was so confused. obviously, this surgery has the potential to save her life, an marie doesn't want to do it. she's more concerned about her kids, and if she'll be able to drive or need special shoes afterwards. marie, your kids are adults. they can handle it. tell them why dontcha? maybe they'll knock some sense into you. 'ma, you should do the surgery. that doctor can help you.' and i think her life is a bit more important than not being able to drive for a month or having to spend an extra twenty bucks for the special shoes.
oh. and i forgot. she's not answering her phone now. her sisters and her mother are trying to call her. she doesn't answer. she says that they're all "bad energy" or "bad chii" or some other bullshit. so her sister and mother are concerned about her? thats such bad energy. it's your negativity thats gonna kill me, not the tumor that grew back in two weeks. nope. so she didn't tell her mother what's going on. she hasn't told her kids whats going on. oh, i lied. she told one kid. but she told him she had melanoma. they cut it off.
so, marie needs to grow up or she's gonna die.
grr. but what really gets me is that she's been ignoring it for THREE YEARS. it started out looking like a bruise under her toenail. why the fuck didn't she do something when it didn't go away and started to grow and whatnot. bruises don't turn into tumors overnight and she had THREE YEARS to deal with this. if she fucking did something when it first got icky and tumor-y she wouldn't be in this entire mess. it would have been dealt with early on when THE DOCTORS CAN ACTUALLY TREAT IT.
a note to anyone who has read this. if you notice something weird on your body and it doesn't go away GO TO A FUCKING DOCTOR AND GET IT TAKEN CARE OF BEFORE IT GETS BAD.
don't be a moron.
cancer is pretty bad in the first place, but it's worse if you don't catch it until it's later stages. catch it early on!
damnit! and marie makes fun of my mom (and barbara too) for getting her annual mammograms and pap smears and colonoscopies and whatnot. she makes fun of her for making sure she catches any signs of cancer early on. AND she jumps on her whenever random shit happens. "oh, dr. mcaffe found a lump in your arm, get a petscan right away!" but whenever he says "marie, it's time for your 6-month petscan" she refuses him! he wants her to get one done every six months. she says maybe she'll get one done every two years. if mom had the toe tumor marie would say "liz, you get that toe chopped off" but when it's her she just wants radiation. IT'S TOO FUCKING LATE FOR RADIATION MARIE. MAYBE IF YOU DID SOMETHING TWO YEARS AGO RADIATION WOULD'VE SUFFICED! BUT NO, YOU WAITED THREE FUCKING YEARS.
huh. this turned out longer than i intended. i keep thing of other things that pisses me off.
so, trying to tie this up.
marie thinks Jesus is gonna heal her cancer, and therefore refuses the help of talented surgeons that work at mass general hospital, which is so world renowned that in the lobby they have all the info up in just about every language you could think of. people come from OTHER COUNTRIES to get the treatment that she can get fifteen minutes away from her house. she is so lucky to be getting the treatment she is. if she needs dr. mcaffe for anything at all, she can call up and she'll have an appointment for like next week. some people probably have to wait months to be able to see doctors there! and she's gonna get everything she needs right away! what the hell is wrong with her?! this could KILL HER! and she's not doing everything she can to live!
she hasn't told her children! if she continues being an idiot, she'll end up dying randomly, and we'll have to call her kids. "heeey...your mom died....hehe she didn't tell you, but she was really sick. sorry you're not really prepared for this at all. sorry last time you saw her she was kind bitchy towards you." and mike might not even be home! he might be going on some random month-and-a-half-long trip to somewhere random. so we might not even be able to fucking reach him! "hey mike, welcome back. interesting this happened...two days after you left your mom died. yeah, you kinda missed the funeral. sorry"
how stupid can you be! she didn't let the doctor tell her what stage she's in, she's stopped taking calls from her sisters and mother, she didn't even tell her kids OR mother whats going on, and she's refusing the help of a brilliant surgeon who could very well be saving her life by cutting off her toe.
i'm sorry marie, but this is the stupidest thing you've ever done.
you've been stupid in the past.
but this takes the cake.