There's Always A First Time
Through my life I have been called many terrible names. In my line of work it happens, and indicates I'm doing my job. I don't get emotional over stuff, and staying calm, cool, and collected is part of my professionalism.
However, there is one thing that will make me lose my cool and piss me off more than anything else: Accusing me of something I didn't do. It's happened often enough I feel like I have a target on my back. I've been accused of outrageous things. One incident involved someone accusing me of constantly harassing her, sending her threatening emails, and even calling her up at her place of work and screaming obscenities at her. To this day, I don't even know this person's name, but her word alone was enough to kick me out of three fan groups at the same time.
It happened again, this time on Facebook. Someone I considered a friend and had much in common with had an anonymous person contact another friend of hers through facebook and shared with her several screen grabs of things the mutual friend had said about her. This of course caused all sorts of drama, but for some reason the friend thought it was me who did this.
First, some facts:
I really, honestly, don't make a habit of prying into people's personal lives. I like to keep parts of my life private and it makes sense other people want to do the same with their lives. Also, once something's on the internet it's there forever, and you don't want to say or share things that can come back to bite you later.
The facebook friend unfriended me and didn't talk to me for over a year. Her choice, and although I was still completely innocent of what she accused me of doing, she decided I was the guilty party anyway. I noticed that many of our mutual friends also refused to talk to me after that. Typical behavior.
Until a couple of weeks ago. The facebook friend contacted me. She told me that she found out who really sent her real life friend the screen grabs and knew it wasn't me. She then APOLOGIZED to me and we're back to being facebook friends. She told me about the person who did it, a person I am well aware of likes to cause trouble for people.
This is the first time someone has been enough of a decent human being to actually apologize to me. I don't know if other people who have accused me ever get to the point they know I was innocent because they never talk to me again. Weak, cowardly people. It takes guts to admit you're wrong, which is why people don't do it very often.
As for the facebook friend who proved she has a spine, we're back to chatting again, but I won't forget what she did to me. She knows this too.
However, there is one thing that will make me lose my cool and piss me off more than anything else: Accusing me of something I didn't do. It's happened often enough I feel like I have a target on my back. I've been accused of outrageous things. One incident involved someone accusing me of constantly harassing her, sending her threatening emails, and even calling her up at her place of work and screaming obscenities at her. To this day, I don't even know this person's name, but her word alone was enough to kick me out of three fan groups at the same time.
It happened again, this time on Facebook. Someone I considered a friend and had much in common with had an anonymous person contact another friend of hers through facebook and shared with her several screen grabs of things the mutual friend had said about her. This of course caused all sorts of drama, but for some reason the friend thought it was me who did this.
First, some facts:
- I don't know the facebook friend's real life friend.
- Although I had seen statuses posted by the facebook friend making fun of her real life friend's choice of names for her baby, it was certainly nothing worthy of screen grabbing and sending to the real life friend. (and frankly, the baby name choice is horrendous. She named her baby after a Homestuck character so I agree it's a terrible name for a baby.)
I really, honestly, don't make a habit of prying into people's personal lives. I like to keep parts of my life private and it makes sense other people want to do the same with their lives. Also, once something's on the internet it's there forever, and you don't want to say or share things that can come back to bite you later.
The facebook friend unfriended me and didn't talk to me for over a year. Her choice, and although I was still completely innocent of what she accused me of doing, she decided I was the guilty party anyway. I noticed that many of our mutual friends also refused to talk to me after that. Typical behavior.
Until a couple of weeks ago. The facebook friend contacted me. She told me that she found out who really sent her real life friend the screen grabs and knew it wasn't me. She then APOLOGIZED to me and we're back to being facebook friends. She told me about the person who did it, a person I am well aware of likes to cause trouble for people.
This is the first time someone has been enough of a decent human being to actually apologize to me. I don't know if other people who have accused me ever get to the point they know I was innocent because they never talk to me again. Weak, cowardly people. It takes guts to admit you're wrong, which is why people don't do it very often.
As for the facebook friend who proved she has a spine, we're back to chatting again, but I won't forget what she did to me. She knows this too.