Antiseizure meds do tend to affect the libido to a large extent. I can "get there", but it takes me much longer. And the other problem I've always had is that, regardless of my partner's girth/length, intercourse for me feels like a cucumber being forcibly shoved through a hole meant for a pencil. At best, I feel nothing but friction, at worst, it's the sensation I've just described. I'd decided about ten years before I met hubby that the next person I'd have sex with would be my husband, and then only for purposes of procreation. I met hubby just before my hysterectomy, so the whole procreation thing went right out the window, hence my telling him he was free to sow his wild oats elsewhere if he needed to. He swears he'd never do that because "he's not wired that way (to "cheat")". I just shrug and remind him that I meant what I said--he shouldn't have to do without simply because I don't enjoy it.

Paradoxically, another problem I have is that my tissues have become so sensitive that, whether I masturbate with my fingers or whether hubby and I have intercourse, regardless of whether I've just washed my hands or we do it in the shower I'm guaranteed to get a UTI.