I'm Selfish and I'm Not Sorry
Possibly because I am (close your eyes, guys, probable TMI moment here) on the rag, but today I feel very much like a razor blade looking to seriously slice a bloody gash into modern society. Specifically modern parents who totally go overboard with making Baby their entire universe and don't see how utterly awful that is.
A is pregnant and she's been shopping for baby furniture lately and related a story today about a husband and wife at the furniture store. She was posing with big belly at the crib of their choice while he snapped pictures for posterity.
A painted this rosy picture of how their little girl would grow up knowing how much she was loved and wanted because there will be pictures of everything related to her before she was born.
V thought taking pictures of the nursery was enough, but I grimaced at the whole thing. (Of course I am not the most maternal person in the world - go figure!!)
I painted a slightly less rosy picture of a little girl growing up thinking she was the center of the known universe and then at 18 she's suddenly in college with a bunch of other solipsistic little Princes and Princesses and they're all expecting the entire world to just bow down at their feet and are outraged when it does not happen.
V and A stared at me with their deer in the headlights expressions that I sometimes provoke and I explained that if I had a child I would love that child fiercely but she would not be the center of my world. I was the center of my world and nobody and nothing could change that. In my opinon, if I'm right with me, then I have room for so many other people and things that I wouldn't if I based my existence on somebody else.
V explained that she only put herself last for a handful of people, but those people meant everything. I said I would never put myself last for anybody.
This does not mean that if my child was about to be run over by a truck that I would stand there and watch it happen, no, I would take the truck for my kid, but that doesn't mean I put myself last.
Not many people bother to do much work on understanding who they really are; they buy into this selfless, unconditional love, sacrifice JC bullshit mindset that I usually can ignore, but sometimes it all boils over and I just can't bite my tongue one second more.
They do things but they don't understand why and that bothers me. They do them because that's "the way things are done" and they don't challenge it. GRRRR!
But anyway, I will stop ranting/preaching now because I do know the answer. It's easier. And most people will take the easy way out every time. But when it's all said and done and they are 70 years old and looking back at the things they could have done, what do they think of the easy way then? I *never* want to be in that position and so I've taken steps to make sure I won't be.
Bottom line: Don't mess with Mina when she's on the rag I guess. ;)
A is pregnant and she's been shopping for baby furniture lately and related a story today about a husband and wife at the furniture store. She was posing with big belly at the crib of their choice while he snapped pictures for posterity.
A painted this rosy picture of how their little girl would grow up knowing how much she was loved and wanted because there will be pictures of everything related to her before she was born.
V thought taking pictures of the nursery was enough, but I grimaced at the whole thing. (Of course I am not the most maternal person in the world - go figure!!)
I painted a slightly less rosy picture of a little girl growing up thinking she was the center of the known universe and then at 18 she's suddenly in college with a bunch of other solipsistic little Princes and Princesses and they're all expecting the entire world to just bow down at their feet and are outraged when it does not happen.
V and A stared at me with their deer in the headlights expressions that I sometimes provoke and I explained that if I had a child I would love that child fiercely but she would not be the center of my world. I was the center of my world and nobody and nothing could change that. In my opinon, if I'm right with me, then I have room for so many other people and things that I wouldn't if I based my existence on somebody else.
V explained that she only put herself last for a handful of people, but those people meant everything. I said I would never put myself last for anybody.
This does not mean that if my child was about to be run over by a truck that I would stand there and watch it happen, no, I would take the truck for my kid, but that doesn't mean I put myself last.
Not many people bother to do much work on understanding who they really are; they buy into this selfless, unconditional love, sacrifice JC bullshit mindset that I usually can ignore, but sometimes it all boils over and I just can't bite my tongue one second more.
They do things but they don't understand why and that bothers me. They do them because that's "the way things are done" and they don't challenge it. GRRRR!
But anyway, I will stop ranting/preaching now because I do know the answer. It's easier. And most people will take the easy way out every time. But when it's all said and done and they are 70 years old and looking back at the things they could have done, what do they think of the easy way then? I *never* want to be in that position and so I've taken steps to make sure I won't be.
Bottom line: Don't mess with Mina when she's on the rag I guess. ;)