Sexy or cute?
I'm fed up. I was in the grocery store today, doing some shopping so I could have dinner when I over heard one of the bag boys behind me say to another bag boy "that girl over there is pretty cute." while his other little bag boy friend said "nah man, she's not my style, she doesn't look like she knows how to have fun." Now, generally I don't let things that pre-pubescent fourteen year old boys even register in my head, it brought up something that I have been dealing with for most of my life. I look nice. Now any of my good friends will tell you, I'm not actually that nice, I have a tendency to be abrasive, sarcastic and biting. This places me in a conundrum when it comes to dating. I look like the girl that doesn't do anything, go anywhere or have much of a personality. I have male friends that have complained to me about the same situation. So what is it that I do? It may not seem like a big deal, but you have to admit, you only call a girl "nice" when she is really hairy or has a lot of moles. Last time I checked in the mirror I was a decent looking girl. But I was thinking on the way home, it is so much easier for an average to below average looking guy than it is for a girl who is below par to find someone to date. Why is this? I have narrowed it down to a few possible theories.
Number One: Women are a lot more forgiving than men when it comes to physical appearances. For example, there are a lot more Catherine Zeta Jones's and Michael Douglases and Britney Spears's with Kevin Federlines than there are hot men with ugly women (I can't even think of one celebrity couple).
Number Two: Women generally want relationships more than men do. So, the less than perfect guy can find a decent girl who wants a relationship much easier than the less than perfect girl can unless she is willing to date a brain dead parapelegic.
Number Three: Men are too visually stimulated. We all know its true, we make fun of men for being able to get off on a picture or movie while we women have to work much harder for it. But not many people have put two and two together and extended this phenomena to the world of dating. While we all know that a working and loving relationship is based on communication, compromise and affection, it all has to start somewhere, doesn't it? Maybe the standards for a man to find that spark of initial attraction is much higher than it is for women.
Number Four: Materialism. Many women are capable of focusing on cars, money and gifts rather than looks? I'm not totally sure because I've never been there, but something has to account for Anna Nicole Smith, right?
No matter the cause, the effect is certainly evident. One of these days I'm really going to have to invest in those breasts I've been talking about.
And before anyone has a coniption, I was just kidding, I'm not actually going to buy boobs so that I can get a boyfriend. I mean come one, if I really wanted a boyfriend we all know I'd be a stripper by now, geez.
Number One: Women are a lot more forgiving than men when it comes to physical appearances. For example, there are a lot more Catherine Zeta Jones's and Michael Douglases and Britney Spears's with Kevin Federlines than there are hot men with ugly women (I can't even think of one celebrity couple).
Number Two: Women generally want relationships more than men do. So, the less than perfect guy can find a decent girl who wants a relationship much easier than the less than perfect girl can unless she is willing to date a brain dead parapelegic.
Number Three: Men are too visually stimulated. We all know its true, we make fun of men for being able to get off on a picture or movie while we women have to work much harder for it. But not many people have put two and two together and extended this phenomena to the world of dating. While we all know that a working and loving relationship is based on communication, compromise and affection, it all has to start somewhere, doesn't it? Maybe the standards for a man to find that spark of initial attraction is much higher than it is for women.
Number Four: Materialism. Many women are capable of focusing on cars, money and gifts rather than looks? I'm not totally sure because I've never been there, but something has to account for Anna Nicole Smith, right?
No matter the cause, the effect is certainly evident. One of these days I'm really going to have to invest in those breasts I've been talking about.
And before anyone has a coniption, I was just kidding, I'm not actually going to buy boobs so that I can get a boyfriend. I mean come one, if I really wanted a boyfriend we all know I'd be a stripper by now, geez.