Drama drama drama

[niassa_c]

Ok I finally did it. I confronted my roommate. I came home and my kitchen was segregated. All her stuff on one side and mine out on the counter or in a drawer. By this I mean every drawer is now hers or mine, no mixing. She moved her coffee maker and such to one side and put the can opener over on the other counter with my roll of paper towels

Comments

[trulybloom]

Good for you in standing up to her and saying what you thought; that's probably what is going to help get this solved, but it sounds like you need to keep at it.

Well, maybe you two can have a conversation once she calms down?

If you both need to be there until December, then that seems to be a pretty good reason to try to talk and work it out. Probably won't be easy and probably won't get solved in one go, but since you have to share common space then it's worth it to try to work it out.

Sounds like you need to talk about what is annoying you about the other person, what things are intrusive (apparently, your use of the storage space and, clearly, her being noisy with friends when you're trying to study, probably among other things), and then how you two can compromise to minimize the stress of living together.

I totally didn't get along with my roommate freshman year - and we lived in a 12x12 room! Her solution was to get other people to talk to me about her issues (didn't make me think very highly of her), but we came to an agreement that I would never play the radio when she was around, we would never hang out, we would never be friends, and we would keep to our own half of the room and we would leave the other person alone. It wasn't the best situation, but it was quiet and condusive to study, and it was way better than passive-aggressive shit all the time and better than yelling at each other; I think, sometimes, that's the best you can hope for with some people.

[niassa_c]

God, I'm sooooo passive agressive though! I am going to try just to see how she's going to handle it. If she doesn't take my apology well, I won't worry so much.

I'm not going to delibertly do anything annoying, so I hope she does the same. I just hope getting that stuff off my chest helps.

[trulybloom]

Two passive aggressive people sharing a space is probably not a great thing, but see how things go. If you can come to some kind of a truce, even if it's an unspoken one, even if it's not ideal, it's probably not a bad thing.

You'll just have to see how she behaves. Glad it helped to get that stuff off your chest - sometimes that's all it takes.