...trust...
I don't know about anyone else but going into a relationship I trust my partner. The only way that trust is broken is if I am lied to. With my experiences I've learned that trust is especially hard to earn back. So how am I expected to gain it back if I am lied to over and over again, if I haven't even had a chance to heal from the first lie? Its like the lie happens and my signifigant other promises it won't happen again and then it's just expected that I'm going to beleive whatever they say from then on because they made that promise.
My opinion is that a relationship is based some on love, some on comfort, and mostly on trust. How is one expected to keep on and have a healthy relationship if one of those is factored out of the situation? Comfort derives from trust. For instance, if you are sitting in a chair and the chair is broken, you don't trust that your not going to fall so you can't get comfortable.
After the comfort is gone the relationship will continue to get worse. The problems progress and before you know it, your left with a huge rift between you and your loved one. Something bigger then a rift is left between you two. Something that causes you to be blind as to who you fell inlove with. That something is the lie. Its like, "HELLO! IM SITTING HERE MAKING YOU MAD, AND IM GOING TO RUIN EVERYTHING!!"
One of the hardest things to do is just let go of someone or something you love and hold so dearly to your heart. Yes, they hurt you, or yes they lied to you, but you still think it's going to be okay. You still think that person will change. In all actuality your really just hoping they will change so you don't have to loose them. It's really a catch 22 if you think about it. You want to be with them so bad that you subject yourself to more hurt and more lies just so you don't have to deal with the pain of them being gone.
Well, my chair is broken and everytime I try to fix it, some fat ass sits in it and breaks it again. I'm forced to give up because I'm tired of falling.
My opinion is that a relationship is based some on love, some on comfort, and mostly on trust. How is one expected to keep on and have a healthy relationship if one of those is factored out of the situation? Comfort derives from trust. For instance, if you are sitting in a chair and the chair is broken, you don't trust that your not going to fall so you can't get comfortable.
After the comfort is gone the relationship will continue to get worse. The problems progress and before you know it, your left with a huge rift between you and your loved one. Something bigger then a rift is left between you two. Something that causes you to be blind as to who you fell inlove with. That something is the lie. Its like, "HELLO! IM SITTING HERE MAKING YOU MAD, AND IM GOING TO RUIN EVERYTHING!!"
One of the hardest things to do is just let go of someone or something you love and hold so dearly to your heart. Yes, they hurt you, or yes they lied to you, but you still think it's going to be okay. You still think that person will change. In all actuality your really just hoping they will change so you don't have to loose them. It's really a catch 22 if you think about it. You want to be with them so bad that you subject yourself to more hurt and more lies just so you don't have to deal with the pain of them being gone.
Well, my chair is broken and everytime I try to fix it, some fat ass sits in it and breaks it again. I'm forced to give up because I'm tired of falling.