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tdarling asked: i'd like to know ... if you are in a relationship, what is your biggest fear about it? if you aren't, what was the main reason for the failure of your last one and are you over it?
No my dear I'm not currently in a relationship. The reason the last one I had fell apart, is because I was waaay to forgiving, when the signs were there that she lost intrest. She spent too much time with other people, and eventually I found out that she was seeing someone else, as she'd gotten her girlfriend a job at the resturant where she works.
Generally in a lot of the relationships that I've been in I can look back and see the moments where I've made mistakes, though I know that the failure of any relationship isn't the fault of just one person, I can only be responsible enough to see my shortcommings and do my best to overcome them.
I'm over it, only because I got out there and met other people, but I'm always in the position of meeting the right one at the wrong time.
For example, there's a girl I met who now lives in california, who I care about deeply, but we chose to be friends as we both wanted to be in different places in life before trying a relationship. Were good friends now, even though she now lives a across the country.
I'm also friends witha lot of attractive women, so yes there's the occasional flirting that enuses. The idea the fasicinates me is that you can nver really know what the other person is thingking, so anything 's possible.
There are a lot of women that I'm close to that I've thought about making a move on at one point or another, but I'm old enough to realize that no matter how much I may care about them, that the friendships I have with them are important.
That being said, if any of them were single and open to the possibilty of seeing where it would go I'd be up for it.
Oddly enough my past relationships are a big part of the book I'm currently working on, so a lot of my time, (when I'm not working) is spent trying to put my thoughts and feelings on the past in some semblance of sense, so that it at least makes sense to me.
Very good question :)