sharing a budget

[neugotik]

ok = I guess this will be dull to many (most?) but I'm curious based on what I know of my own history, kinda well, what the standard is out there - so I'm polling. I'm going to set this up anonymous answer so people can feel free to be honest. Thanks for the feedback

Comments

[ktig]

D once quipped, "your salary is higher so you should pay more!"
To which, I wondered how emasculated that makes him feel. :)

[neugotik]

Lol. Heh. Takes a big man to admit he should pay less due to less pay, eh? *grin*

I've seen couples who do split their bills this way. In fact I know what married couple who's quite happy (it seems to me) w/their arrangement & they split everything as a percentage of bills: and the percent was based on the total they make - so if one makes 60G a year, and the other makes 40G a year, the first pays 60% & 40% is what the latter pays - er, so they seem to like that. But then.. I think maybe you already pay more then the % more you make? But then also, what does one do w/a slacker partner who doesn't make, maybe anything? It seems that comes up a lot.

[iamrobertsworry]

I don't get this, since It would seem that they are enjoying the apartment or tv just as much as I do, why would they pay less. Maybe if they didn't watch tv, then it would come out of my spending money.

[neugotik]

I don't watch tv - to take your proposed item - except 1 show, which I catch every 3 weeks and hopefully backwatch the episodes I missed, but honestly usually I don't : Ijust go w/the flow on the ones I see. ok? I had a 9" tv when I met my husband, whom I'm going through divorce with,right, but he still lives w/me & the kids, plus a roommate. er... yeah. So, anyhows: he's bought a bunch of big tvs. Now we have 3 giant 32" +++ tvs (2 are big flatscreens, one's a kinda normal 32" CTR his mom bought the kids) er... so, if he watches 4 or 5 shows a week & gets all these tvs, that's not balanced, but it kinda is, 'cause we don't get cable tv: just cable internet...but that's spendy & I pay for it, but we both use it. He pays the cell bill. ok - but then I pay electric & natural gas & rent .. er, and it adds up, and I pay all kid-care . . . so that's a ton. Kidcare is a lot - 1300/month in school year, and 1800/month or so in summer - and I pay util & rent : it's tiring. But maybe it's normal, i don't know.

[iamrobertsworry]

Yeah, the cell bill doesn't seem like a fair split there... I want your job though... that is some sweet bank..

I'd give him six months start giving more or kick his ass out.. Then finish the divorce and start getting child support.