Attempting to Date ... Sort Of.
From me to a random guy on OKCupid tonight:
I know who I am and where I'm going, and I know what I want. I'm looking for a particular type of gaming nerd, because really I don't see how any kind of lifelong relationship is going to work if we don't have that in common, and I'm looking for a specific type of connection in addition that. I have no expectations that I'm going to find what I'm looking for on here, but figured I'd give it a try at a friend's suggestion. It's gotta be a better chance than continuing to wait around for the right person to randomly show up offline.
I gotta say, so far this whole dating site venture has been entertaining. I signed up on Thursday evening in a moment of loneliness weakness, made a crappy profile, and started getting messages from people all over the place. On Friday morning I made some cranky edits to it to get them to go away. Then on Friday evening I edited it again into the current, friendly and approachable version that it is now.
So it's now Saturday evening. Highlights so far:
a) a guy who wanted me to help him cheat on his wife, and approached me because he doesn't mind gender fluidity.
b) a couple who were looking for a third for casual sex.
c) a guy who wanted to know what FTM means. We had a longwinded respectful conversation about it, he was happy to have learned something new, and then we segued into national politics for a while (we turn out to agree with each other politically). The above quote came from this conversation, while I was trying to explain why I'm not interested in him non-platonically.
d) a guy that I might actually meet up with tomorrow, if he finishes tinkering with his robot and writes back in time. I approached him because he was a computer geek and looked kind of cute. We'll see if this goes anywhere.
I guess that's not bad for two days in. There really aren't enough other nerds on the site though - the vast majority of the local guys on it are rednecks. I also signed up for a geek-specific dating site, but then found out after I was done that it's basically unusable without spending money. Meanwhile, I'm going to see if I can start attending some of the local cons that I've been ignoring up to now. Biggest nerd gatherings ever, so probably better chances there than anywhere else.
Why all the sudden interest in dating, when I hadn't been doing much of that for the last decade? Well, I thought I had found someone I wanted. We dated for a couple weeks, and then he decided he didn't want me. :( I guess partly I'm trying to get myself to move on, and partly I really would like to have someone in my life again, now that I almost did.
I know who I am and where I'm going, and I know what I want. I'm looking for a particular type of gaming nerd, because really I don't see how any kind of lifelong relationship is going to work if we don't have that in common, and I'm looking for a specific type of connection in addition that. I have no expectations that I'm going to find what I'm looking for on here, but figured I'd give it a try at a friend's suggestion. It's gotta be a better chance than continuing to wait around for the right person to randomly show up offline.
I gotta say, so far this whole dating site venture has been entertaining. I signed up on Thursday evening in a moment of loneliness weakness, made a crappy profile, and started getting messages from people all over the place. On Friday morning I made some cranky edits to it to get them to go away. Then on Friday evening I edited it again into the current, friendly and approachable version that it is now.
So it's now Saturday evening. Highlights so far:
a) a guy who wanted me to help him cheat on his wife, and approached me because he doesn't mind gender fluidity.
b) a couple who were looking for a third for casual sex.
c) a guy who wanted to know what FTM means. We had a longwinded respectful conversation about it, he was happy to have learned something new, and then we segued into national politics for a while (we turn out to agree with each other politically). The above quote came from this conversation, while I was trying to explain why I'm not interested in him non-platonically.
d) a guy that I might actually meet up with tomorrow, if he finishes tinkering with his robot and writes back in time. I approached him because he was a computer geek and looked kind of cute. We'll see if this goes anywhere.
I guess that's not bad for two days in. There really aren't enough other nerds on the site though - the vast majority of the local guys on it are rednecks. I also signed up for a geek-specific dating site, but then found out after I was done that it's basically unusable without spending money. Meanwhile, I'm going to see if I can start attending some of the local cons that I've been ignoring up to now. Biggest nerd gatherings ever, so probably better chances there than anywhere else.
Why all the sudden interest in dating, when I hadn't been doing much of that for the last decade? Well, I thought I had found someone I wanted. We dated for a couple weeks, and then he decided he didn't want me. :( I guess partly I'm trying to get myself to move on, and partly I really would like to have someone in my life again, now that I almost did.