Open To Suggestions
I hadn't logged in to LJ in months. Then I wanted to complain about something and didn't really have a good method to go about doing it. So I came here, but as I was typing a post I realized that my complaint wasn't fully valid. I should have made a second suggestion once my first suggestion was shot down. Although the reasoning for the rejection was weak, I can still see that it was coming from a logical place despite the flawed argument. A second suggestion would have been more proactive, and if it weren't utilized as well then I would have a more valid complaint. But even that would be a waste of time since the other person does seem to have dropped the issue.
Back in high school, we wrote original oratories for speech class. Mine was about how craziness is subjective. My best friend claimed that Dubya was an alien. And another girl did one about complaining. Although I don't remember all the details, one of her main points was that if you complain, you have to be open to suggestions for improvement. If you're not, then the problem is just as much with you as with whatever is causing your complaint. So now I have a tendency to come up with ideas for change when someone has a problem, and I'm irrationally bothered when they are given zero consideration. Even coming up with a reason why a suggestion will not work is better than simply taking a stance of I-like-complaining-so-I'm-going-to-keep-doing-it. However, if the roles were reversed and someone was complaining about another person not accepting suggestions to end whatever is causing the complaint, my recommendation would be to simply get over it because you simply can't get through to a person like that.
Anyway, I just needed to get that out of my system. Hopefully I can now move on and stop devoting an excessive amount of cognitive effort to the matter.
Back in high school, we wrote original oratories for speech class. Mine was about how craziness is subjective. My best friend claimed that Dubya was an alien. And another girl did one about complaining. Although I don't remember all the details, one of her main points was that if you complain, you have to be open to suggestions for improvement. If you're not, then the problem is just as much with you as with whatever is causing your complaint. So now I have a tendency to come up with ideas for change when someone has a problem, and I'm irrationally bothered when they are given zero consideration. Even coming up with a reason why a suggestion will not work is better than simply taking a stance of I-like-complaining-so-I'm-going-to-keep-doing-it. However, if the roles were reversed and someone was complaining about another person not accepting suggestions to end whatever is causing the complaint, my recommendation would be to simply get over it because you simply can't get through to a person like that.
Anyway, I just needed to get that out of my system. Hopefully I can now move on and stop devoting an excessive amount of cognitive effort to the matter.