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Well, to answer your latter question about why I keep coming back here... I enjoy reading about your daily life and the shenanigans you post. (even though I don't comment... I should start doing that again ^^;;) They're entertaining, interesting and fun to read. =) Keep it up. I LOVE your posts!! ^_^b
So now I'm going to take this opportunity to pour my heart out to you on a situation that occurred two nights ago that I haven't been able to tell anyone cause I think it'll make the situation worst. (you have amazing timing by the way...) I warn you... it's gonna be a long story.. hope you have time =)
So birthday party. First time going to a lounge. So my friends were determined to get me drunk for the first time in my life. But during that time, this guy I know texted me... I've been texting him a lot lately cause we haven't been able to see each other for 3+ years so we're trying to reconnect (as well as we're having fun casually flirting with each other). I have three best friends, two of them are guys and one of them a girl.
Anyways, my guy best friend who shall be named M first teases me about him but then later on during the night just suddenly gets upset that I'm texting this guy and proceeds to shun me for the rest of the night. To go as far as even getting up and moving to the other end of the table (there's about 20 people at this party so the table was LONG). My other two best friends didn't seem to really care about the guy I was texting but they did notice M's attitude change, my girl bf even getting a bit upset over it.
Anyways, after being peer pressured (I know, so BAD) into a number of drinks and shots, I was sick and drunk-ish. (M bought me drinks before he became upset). So they accomplished their mission of getting me drunk for the first time. Anyways, so they had to take me home cause I wasn't in the complete state of mind, M also joining us.
So apparently I'm an angry drunk cause I just said whatever came to mind... which were some rude things such as telling ppl to shut up when they're being too noisy. Anyways, M gets angry at my girl best friend because she had bought me the most drinks and wasn't "properly" watching out for me. M then gets upset at the other guy as well but not as much. And then M gets upset at himself for not "looking out for me". I told them it was fine and that I should've known my limits. Anyways, M and girl bf fight and me being drunk and all just told them all to shut up (surprising them... ^^;;)
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Anyways, I sent apology text messages later that night once I calmed down a bit. Then the next day I tried to message them on msn/text message/facebook/call them to properly apologize about the whole event but M only replied with a "bye" and then proceeded to downright ignore me. C and my girl bf have also been ignoring me and not responding to anything no matter what I try. I don't know where I went wrong and why they're upset. I'm thinking they're mad that I was being a complete brat when I was drunk and being difficult... but I'm trying to apologize for that.
Additionally, I don't understand why M would get upset that I was reconnecting with an old friend and someone that I kind of like romantically. I'm also thinking that my girl bf might be upset over the fact that I haven't really told her that I'm starting to like this guy but I didn't think she would be that like because it's nothing serious yet... =/ I hope she's not avoiding because she still feels guilty about the whole getting me drunk thing... And then C... I have no idea why he'd be upset other than the fact I was being difficult (understatement) in my drunken state.
What are your thoughts? Where did I go wrong? Should I keep trying to reach them or given them some time and space? I just feel so powerless at the moment. Like anything I do or try isn't reaching them and it's a bit frustrating. =/
Sorry about it being so long ^^;; but thanks for listening to my long story/venting. ^__^
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Well, from what you told me either M has friend-issues (aka being selfish with his friends) or that he can see that you're reconnecting with this other guy and he's jealous, because he likes you. Really typical answers, I'm sorry, but it does seem that way to me.
Maybe you should give them just a little bit of time to cool down, then text all of them to address all the problems you've caused or raised while drunk - like reassuring your girl bf that she IS a good friend to you and that you treasure her a lot, etc. If there's a chance to, talk to them in person and apologize to them in person rather than through the internet or any other form of media. Telling someone that you're really sorry face to face usually works extremely well, and if the other person has a problem with you, you can also ask them exactly what annoyed them and apologize for that, too.
I really hope you make up with all three of them, and I'm sorry I'm not able to help more. :(
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M is still being an idiot and won't talk to me even though I've given him a week to cool off. Well, he has to talk to me sooner or later. If not, well something will have to be done to solve this.
And thanks for the encouragement and the pieces of advice. =) I really just needed someone to vent to. Thanks for listening. ^_^
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