Just because it's been bothering me the last few days
Well, it didn't happen today, but I wanted to post about it anyway. Here's the deal:
When I state my opinion and choose to discuss it with you, there are a couple of ways you can try to change it. One of them is try to persuade me. That is probably the correct choice. However, the incorrect choice is to tell me my opinion is stupid and that I obviously don't know what I'm talking about because what I'm saying my opinion is doesn't even make any sense.
Bad idea.
Another bad idea is to tell me directly and with little tact, after I have put a lot of work into my plans and multiple months/years of work into making those plans happen (in this case, referring specifically to getting a Masters degree), that what I'm doing is a mistake. To those of you who are wont to do that, I reply: Well, I'm glad that you were appointed God. I apparently didn't get the memo. But, I might make a suggestion for you in the future-- firstly, try to use your brain when you speak to people. You'll need it when all the complaints start coming in after you ruin peoples' lives. Secondly, I'm very glad that you saw fit to make very sure that I was aware that, in your all-knowing opinion, I have made a critical error, and will just have to be screwed because it's too late now and I can't do anything about it. Thanks for the infinite wisdom, oh thoughtless one.
To sum up the thoughts behind this rant-like post: If you want to try to persuade me to agree with you, the way to do it is not to tell me I'm stupid. I will tell you right now that if you do so, you will gain automatic Imbecile status in my eyes, and your opinion will be worth less than dirt as far as I am concerned. It will be very difficult to raise yourself to a state in which I will pay any lasting attention to what comes out of your mouth in the future.
However, if you want to try to persuade me, I expect you to give good examples backing up your opinion, and above all, listen respectfully to mine. If I put my foot down, that means you stop trying to argue with me. If you do not, depending on how far you go, consider our acquaintance terminated. If you reach that stage, you will know, because I will suddenly begin giving very cold and succinct responses and probably leave the area.
It is unfortunate, but I doubt that those to whom this is directed will read this post. To anyone else, if you feel that I am singling you out, that probably means that you are inclined to do these things. If that is the case, please continue to feel that I am singling you out. I probably am.
Regards,
Daen
When I state my opinion and choose to discuss it with you, there are a couple of ways you can try to change it. One of them is try to persuade me. That is probably the correct choice. However, the incorrect choice is to tell me my opinion is stupid and that I obviously don't know what I'm talking about because what I'm saying my opinion is doesn't even make any sense.
Bad idea.
Another bad idea is to tell me directly and with little tact, after I have put a lot of work into my plans and multiple months/years of work into making those plans happen (in this case, referring specifically to getting a Masters degree), that what I'm doing is a mistake. To those of you who are wont to do that, I reply: Well, I'm glad that you were appointed God. I apparently didn't get the memo. But, I might make a suggestion for you in the future-- firstly, try to use your brain when you speak to people. You'll need it when all the complaints start coming in after you ruin peoples' lives. Secondly, I'm very glad that you saw fit to make very sure that I was aware that, in your all-knowing opinion, I have made a critical error, and will just have to be screwed because it's too late now and I can't do anything about it. Thanks for the infinite wisdom, oh thoughtless one.
To sum up the thoughts behind this rant-like post: If you want to try to persuade me to agree with you, the way to do it is not to tell me I'm stupid. I will tell you right now that if you do so, you will gain automatic Imbecile status in my eyes, and your opinion will be worth less than dirt as far as I am concerned. It will be very difficult to raise yourself to a state in which I will pay any lasting attention to what comes out of your mouth in the future.
However, if you want to try to persuade me, I expect you to give good examples backing up your opinion, and above all, listen respectfully to mine. If I put my foot down, that means you stop trying to argue with me. If you do not, depending on how far you go, consider our acquaintance terminated. If you reach that stage, you will know, because I will suddenly begin giving very cold and succinct responses and probably leave the area.
It is unfortunate, but I doubt that those to whom this is directed will read this post. To anyone else, if you feel that I am singling you out, that probably means that you are inclined to do these things. If that is the case, please continue to feel that I am singling you out. I probably am.
Regards,
Daen