The cat, the drugs, the money and my son
Monday Davis gave us his GF's kitten-because she bought it behind his back. She took money that should have gone for bills and blew it on the cat- but not a pet deposit, or spaying-but on toys and fluff for the cat.
Then he sent me a message-saying two wrongs don't make a right-please bring the cat back.
Then I found out what he had done to my gift to him-and I did not see him or speak to him til today.
Last night at 10:30pm he calls me-only reason he would call at that hour was something urgent. He wanted us to come get the cat again-so the boys went to get the cat-brought it to our house again-this time with all it's stuff.
Not long after the GF is calling me- I won't answer. I'm in bed and sick of the whole mess. Then Davis sends me a message-says the GF is the same cheating lying person he broke up with over a year ago.
Duh-
But even I was duped into thinking she was better this time around.
Shame on me I guess-
Then he tells me he is coming to get the cat. I tell him no, to stay home, we will deal with this later. Luckily he did not try to come over- it was after midnight and I was ticked about the whole thing.
Today- I sent him a message saying that before he takes the cat we need to talk- and he needs to stop yanking us into the middle of this mess.
I picked him up on my lunch-turns out on Monday after we brought the cat back they got into a fight. She told Davis she hates him- and wants the cat more than she wants him. Davis in turn menaced himself with a knife- saying he wanted to be dead (considering he slit his wrists at 13 this is not a threat to take lightly)-and Savannah took to screaming.
This alerted the police who were kicking people out of the pool nearby-who then arrested Davis and took him to the hospital for a mental health hold. The hospital let him go Tuesday morning.
Wednesday they went grocery shopping-bear in mind that Davis paid all the household bills last month and cashed in his vacation pay to try to get his head above water. He had not cashed his check yet so Savannah used some of her money (whatever is left) to pay for the groceries. Davis then gave her some money back- and asked her to put it in the bank. Don't spend it.
She blew over 100 bucks on weed and pipes. Lied to him about it- then claimed she changed her mind. That is what led to him having us come get the cat again last night-
So today he took the cat back-she can have her cat-he is moving out. Doesn't want to- but that's the plan.
I'm heartsick for so many reasons-I worry about the safety of the kitten. I don't think he would hurt her-but I also know he is angry and hurt and I keep having sickening images of him hurting the kitten in order to hurt Savannah. I really don't think he will- but I can't help but worry.
I worry about Davis- is he really not in a place where he may hurt himself? Or did he play the Dr at the hospital because he's good at talking the talk? Will he follow through on getting out of this situation? He has an appointment to look at a one bedroom apartment tomorrow-but in order to get on his feet he needs to follow through.
I worry about making sure I keep the boundaries up. I already told him I could not help him with money-I am here for emotional support only. I will drive him to the apartments-but it is not up to me to help with anything else. I need to be there for him but keep him at arms length.
If he hurts the kitten- I fully expect Savannah to call the police. If he hurts the kitten *I* will call the police.
If he can just walk away from it all- then there is some hope.
Most of his "friends" have turned on him-I guess he is the unreasonable one in their opinion. I guess little Miss thing with the kitten and the drugs is the rational one? He kept them all in their home-once he is gone they will likely go down in flames.
No loss.
I feel ill inside-I had no way to fight him on taking the cat. If something happens to her- then it will be on me in some ways.
How do I be mom- and still keep him away from us so he does not harm us with all of this mess-
-and I just got a message- he wants to die again. My fear is rising-what do I do?
Then he sent me a message-saying two wrongs don't make a right-please bring the cat back.
Then I found out what he had done to my gift to him-and I did not see him or speak to him til today.
Last night at 10:30pm he calls me-only reason he would call at that hour was something urgent. He wanted us to come get the cat again-so the boys went to get the cat-brought it to our house again-this time with all it's stuff.
Not long after the GF is calling me- I won't answer. I'm in bed and sick of the whole mess. Then Davis sends me a message-says the GF is the same cheating lying person he broke up with over a year ago.
Duh-
But even I was duped into thinking she was better this time around.
Shame on me I guess-
Then he tells me he is coming to get the cat. I tell him no, to stay home, we will deal with this later. Luckily he did not try to come over- it was after midnight and I was ticked about the whole thing.
Today- I sent him a message saying that before he takes the cat we need to talk- and he needs to stop yanking us into the middle of this mess.
I picked him up on my lunch-turns out on Monday after we brought the cat back they got into a fight. She told Davis she hates him- and wants the cat more than she wants him. Davis in turn menaced himself with a knife- saying he wanted to be dead (considering he slit his wrists at 13 this is not a threat to take lightly)-and Savannah took to screaming.
This alerted the police who were kicking people out of the pool nearby-who then arrested Davis and took him to the hospital for a mental health hold. The hospital let him go Tuesday morning.
Wednesday they went grocery shopping-bear in mind that Davis paid all the household bills last month and cashed in his vacation pay to try to get his head above water. He had not cashed his check yet so Savannah used some of her money (whatever is left) to pay for the groceries. Davis then gave her some money back- and asked her to put it in the bank. Don't spend it.
She blew over 100 bucks on weed and pipes. Lied to him about it- then claimed she changed her mind. That is what led to him having us come get the cat again last night-
So today he took the cat back-she can have her cat-he is moving out. Doesn't want to- but that's the plan.
I'm heartsick for so many reasons-I worry about the safety of the kitten. I don't think he would hurt her-but I also know he is angry and hurt and I keep having sickening images of him hurting the kitten in order to hurt Savannah. I really don't think he will- but I can't help but worry.
I worry about Davis- is he really not in a place where he may hurt himself? Or did he play the Dr at the hospital because he's good at talking the talk? Will he follow through on getting out of this situation? He has an appointment to look at a one bedroom apartment tomorrow-but in order to get on his feet he needs to follow through.
I worry about making sure I keep the boundaries up. I already told him I could not help him with money-I am here for emotional support only. I will drive him to the apartments-but it is not up to me to help with anything else. I need to be there for him but keep him at arms length.
If he hurts the kitten- I fully expect Savannah to call the police. If he hurts the kitten *I* will call the police.
If he can just walk away from it all- then there is some hope.
Most of his "friends" have turned on him-I guess he is the unreasonable one in their opinion. I guess little Miss thing with the kitten and the drugs is the rational one? He kept them all in their home-once he is gone they will likely go down in flames.
No loss.
I feel ill inside-I had no way to fight him on taking the cat. If something happens to her- then it will be on me in some ways.
How do I be mom- and still keep him away from us so he does not harm us with all of this mess-
-and I just got a message- he wants to die again. My fear is rising-what do I do?