Updates-
-and much more.
Dr sent me for a bone scan to make sure no cancer had spread to my back-good news, it hasn't. Bad news- still no idea why my lower back hurts so much so often- so now they want to send me to a spine surgeon. My chiro Dr is gonna freak. Being off the highly chemical meds is going well so far. I need to stop killing myself in order to feel better.
Work is going well- save for the fact that I have lost my voice. Came home early today, I am sure that pissed off my manager-but I have to rest my voice. No talking at all- writing notes and texting everyone is amusing at least.
Now for the big emotional dump-Davis...
He moved out- yippee- good for him- good for us.
Car: bought a POS last year-the thing ran less than 4 months-he paid every month. Finally could not deal with the repairs anymore-bought a new car. First car the financing fell through-then the dealer found him a GREAT car. '03 Honda Civic Si- 40k miles-perfect condition-after market rims-satellite radio-black interior-sun roof-lower payment-perfect.
Four.....read me...FOUR days later he had totaled it. Was driving too fast on a dirt road, deer had the gall to cross the road. The NERVE! He slammed on the brakes, cranked the wheel- rolled the car. His GF was not wearing a seatbelt-but despite hitting her head their first priority upon stopping was stashing the weed and pipes in the woods before the cops came.
Idiots.
Car is gone-everyone is ok. Yes, their lives are more important. He got an 8 point ticket and will lose his license- who knows if they will give him a red license or not. Luckily insurance covered the whole thing. He took the POS back to the crap dealer-hopefully they won't sue him. Likely won't- they got more out of him than the thing is worth already.
Money: Kid owes me 140 bucks- it was owed from taxes. I suspended the other 4k he owes us when he moved out. Asked him when he would pay it-he got hostile. I told him I did not want to deal with him-that we needed to stay away from each other. He went around telling people I had "disowned" him. Even my brother ripped into me until he heard my side-
Went on my trip-that I saved and worked hard for. Davis did not think he needed to pay me what he owes me since I could afford to go on the trip. Took him to breakfast when I got back-when I asked him to tell me how he wanted to pay it he threw another hostile fit. So once again I told him we were better off not being around each other-
I had given him a very special gift from the trip, and bought something for his GF too. He told me he had put it in the closet-
Yesterday, when I had picked him up from work and gone to sign the final ppwk for the car insurance AND bought him lunch AND told him the $140 could wait for a while (explain this in a moment)-AND helped him out with a kitten his GF brought home without talking to him- AND offering to repair a special mug of his-I found out he had burned - BURNED the gift I brought him.
It was a hand-painted picture-his name- done in Disney villains. I had even framed it myself-
He burned it- out of anger and hate.
He also destroyed the gift I brought his GF-
I don't know him- he's just not someone I even like anymore.
His best friend has no job and lives off of Davis- his GF got fired, spent her entire savings (8k plus) and has no car and no ability to do the new job she has-Davis has no car-he cashed in his vacation days to get extra money-he paid ALL of the bills out of his own pocket last month-this is why I told him the 140 could hold til this situation resolves itself.
Who co-signed on the car he totaled. Me.
Who lifted 4k worth of debt off of him so he could move? Me.
Who drove down to pick him up when he crashed the car? Me.
Who sat in the ER with him and his GF for hours? Me.
Who saw him through the insurance stuff? Me.
And when I have the nerve to tell him he owes me this small amount of money-and I go on my trip that I busted my ass to afford-and when I bring him something special because my brother and Davis convince me he is so broken and scared and can't manage without my emotional support- what does he do?
He burns it-and then tells me not to flip about it. He's sorry, he regrets it.
Then after all of this-he actually calls me again because he thinks the kitten is lost- so I go back there to help again.
I feel sick just thinking about what he has done- who he has become. He says he is going to come finish fixing the car he has-and then he and the car can go their merry way. I will miss the kitten they have more than him right now-and I only had the kitten around for a couple hours.
Yes-there are people with better relationship with their kids. I don't have that-it doesn't make me a failure- because guess what? I have three other kids- NONE of them behave like Davis. NONE-and they have had sad and bad things in their lives- they choose not to abuse others because of it. They don't blame me for everything- and they sure as hell do not destroy special things out of spite.
-I am going to go play a game now- try to relax. Except Rose is being a brat today-I need a nap.
Dr sent me for a bone scan to make sure no cancer had spread to my back-good news, it hasn't. Bad news- still no idea why my lower back hurts so much so often- so now they want to send me to a spine surgeon. My chiro Dr is gonna freak. Being off the highly chemical meds is going well so far. I need to stop killing myself in order to feel better.
Work is going well- save for the fact that I have lost my voice. Came home early today, I am sure that pissed off my manager-but I have to rest my voice. No talking at all- writing notes and texting everyone is amusing at least.
Now for the big emotional dump-Davis...
He moved out- yippee- good for him- good for us.
Car: bought a POS last year-the thing ran less than 4 months-he paid every month. Finally could not deal with the repairs anymore-bought a new car. First car the financing fell through-then the dealer found him a GREAT car. '03 Honda Civic Si- 40k miles-perfect condition-after market rims-satellite radio-black interior-sun roof-lower payment-perfect.
Four.....read me...FOUR days later he had totaled it. Was driving too fast on a dirt road, deer had the gall to cross the road. The NERVE! He slammed on the brakes, cranked the wheel- rolled the car. His GF was not wearing a seatbelt-but despite hitting her head their first priority upon stopping was stashing the weed and pipes in the woods before the cops came.
Idiots.
Car is gone-everyone is ok. Yes, their lives are more important. He got an 8 point ticket and will lose his license- who knows if they will give him a red license or not. Luckily insurance covered the whole thing. He took the POS back to the crap dealer-hopefully they won't sue him. Likely won't- they got more out of him than the thing is worth already.
Money: Kid owes me 140 bucks- it was owed from taxes. I suspended the other 4k he owes us when he moved out. Asked him when he would pay it-he got hostile. I told him I did not want to deal with him-that we needed to stay away from each other. He went around telling people I had "disowned" him. Even my brother ripped into me until he heard my side-
Went on my trip-that I saved and worked hard for. Davis did not think he needed to pay me what he owes me since I could afford to go on the trip. Took him to breakfast when I got back-when I asked him to tell me how he wanted to pay it he threw another hostile fit. So once again I told him we were better off not being around each other-
I had given him a very special gift from the trip, and bought something for his GF too. He told me he had put it in the closet-
Yesterday, when I had picked him up from work and gone to sign the final ppwk for the car insurance AND bought him lunch AND told him the $140 could wait for a while (explain this in a moment)-AND helped him out with a kitten his GF brought home without talking to him- AND offering to repair a special mug of his-I found out he had burned - BURNED the gift I brought him.
It was a hand-painted picture-his name- done in Disney villains. I had even framed it myself-
He burned it- out of anger and hate.
He also destroyed the gift I brought his GF-
I don't know him- he's just not someone I even like anymore.
His best friend has no job and lives off of Davis- his GF got fired, spent her entire savings (8k plus) and has no car and no ability to do the new job she has-Davis has no car-he cashed in his vacation days to get extra money-he paid ALL of the bills out of his own pocket last month-this is why I told him the 140 could hold til this situation resolves itself.
Who co-signed on the car he totaled. Me.
Who lifted 4k worth of debt off of him so he could move? Me.
Who drove down to pick him up when he crashed the car? Me.
Who sat in the ER with him and his GF for hours? Me.
Who saw him through the insurance stuff? Me.
And when I have the nerve to tell him he owes me this small amount of money-and I go on my trip that I busted my ass to afford-and when I bring him something special because my brother and Davis convince me he is so broken and scared and can't manage without my emotional support- what does he do?
He burns it-and then tells me not to flip about it. He's sorry, he regrets it.
Then after all of this-he actually calls me again because he thinks the kitten is lost- so I go back there to help again.
I feel sick just thinking about what he has done- who he has become. He says he is going to come finish fixing the car he has-and then he and the car can go their merry way. I will miss the kitten they have more than him right now-and I only had the kitten around for a couple hours.
Yes-there are people with better relationship with their kids. I don't have that-it doesn't make me a failure- because guess what? I have three other kids- NONE of them behave like Davis. NONE-and they have had sad and bad things in their lives- they choose not to abuse others because of it. They don't blame me for everything- and they sure as hell do not destroy special things out of spite.
-I am going to go play a game now- try to relax. Except Rose is being a brat today-I need a nap.