Okay, well I know that no matter what I say, offense will be taken, so what the hell. You're right. A "friend" should be supportive. But let's not go there today. If you're accusing me of not being supportive, I'll take it. But you weren't exactly supportive, or understanding, of me flying off the handle last month when I quit smoking. (And I did apologize for that. I feel rotten.) I don't care if you're mad at me, Michelle. You are my friend and I love you. Your being mad at me is not going to change that. You are and always will be one of the best friends I have, and whether or not you feel the same way doesn't change how I feel. People fuck up, and a friend is measured, among other things, by their understanding and capacity for forgiveness. That being said. I'm glad the people you spoke to were neutral sources, and not paid advertisers of the school you'll be working for. What they say has a lot of value. But don't just listen to the lovey dovey. You're right, people die everywhere... nowhere in the world is safe... doesn't make it okay to walk head on into terrorist country. (Not that is it, I'm just saying...) And as for eloquence, honey... I'm a Sag. I have NEVER claimed to be eloquent. Just the opposite, in fact... I'm blunt to the point of offence sometimes. But always, always with the best of intentions. I am saying what I am because I CARE ABOUT YOU. If I am wrong about the risks involved in going there, I will for the first time in my life be THRILLED that I am wrong. Knowing how intelligent and mature you are, I know you didn't walk into this job blindly. I'm just worried that you're dismissing the real dangers out there in your quest to gain world experience. A friend who didn't worry would be no friend at all. To make a long story short, Michelle, I (and I'm sure your other friends as well) support you no matter what. We wish you happiness and fulfillment and safety and love and laughter and all that other shit. Please don't be mad. Since you've already made your decision I will never mention any of this again. I will always support all of your decisions. I just want you to know everything there is to know about the decisions you make, that's all. *shrugs* Just chalk it up to being a mom. Moms worry - not only about their kids, but about everyone else on the damn planet too :P
You're right. A "friend" should be supportive. But let's not go there today. If you're accusing me of not being supportive, I'll take it. But you weren't exactly supportive, or understanding, of me flying off the handle last month when I quit smoking. (And I did apologize for that. I feel rotten.) I don't care if you're mad at me, Michelle. You are my friend and I love you. Your being mad at me is not going to change that. You are and always will be one of the best friends I have, and whether or not you feel the same way doesn't change how I feel. People fuck up, and a friend is measured, among other things, by their understanding and capacity for forgiveness.
That being said.
I'm glad the people you spoke to were neutral sources, and not paid advertisers of the school you'll be working for. What they say has a lot of value. But don't just listen to the lovey dovey. You're right, people die everywhere... nowhere in the world is safe... doesn't make it okay to walk head on into terrorist country. (Not that is it, I'm just saying...) And as for eloquence, honey... I'm a Sag. I have NEVER claimed to be eloquent. Just the opposite, in fact... I'm blunt to the point of offence sometimes. But always, always with the best of intentions.
I am saying what I am because I CARE ABOUT YOU. If I am wrong about the risks involved in going there, I will for the first time in my life be THRILLED that I am wrong.
Knowing how intelligent and mature you are, I know you didn't walk into this job blindly. I'm just worried that you're dismissing the real dangers out there in your quest to gain world experience. A friend who didn't worry would be no friend at all.
To make a long story short, Michelle, I (and I'm sure your other friends as well) support you no matter what. We wish you happiness and fulfillment and safety and love and laughter and all that other shit. Please don't be mad. Since you've already made your decision I will never mention any of this again. I will always support all of your decisions. I just want you to know everything there is to know about the decisions you make, that's all. *shrugs* Just chalk it up to being a mom. Moms worry - not only about their kids, but about everyone else on the damn planet too :P
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