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It was an interesting weekend.
Friday night I had gone out for dinner with some friends for my bday. It was supposed to be a big party of 14, but 6 showed up. I wouldn't have minded so much, but people were bailing on me the day of. Like, srs? Don't be a dick, tell me sooner. And then Kristi got wasted, and was mad at me for not making it big deal that she was there because "She really couldn't afford it" and "It's not like I'm a Jew or anything sjnfj Jew dfjo8j Jew skjhfiu Jew". It got funny towards the end especially since all she could say was "Jew jew jew jew jew jew". I appreciate her being there and everything, and the first thing I toasted to when we sat down was "Thanks everybody for being here" so I don't know why she didn't think I didn't appreciate her. You want me to congratulate for following through on a promise you made me? Do you want me to genuflect and kiss your hand? Oh hell no. besides, her not having money is bullshit, because she's always shopping for really expensive shit like Louis Vuitton bags and these awesome shoes that are really beautiful. Not that I'm telling her how to spend her money, but don't tell me you're broke when you're obviously not.
I've been more conscience of my money, how I spend it, and I've been reading this one blog that I find particularly helpful (Get Rich Slowly) and just overall I'm trying to develop a healthier relationship with money. I've been saving half of my paycheck every week, it gos straight into my savings account. I just need to be more careful when I spend it and what I use. I hate having a credit card bill, but right now I have at least $300 on it. Now I'm gonna be spending the rest of the month paying it off in chunks until it's cleared (I hate carrying it over to the next month but sometimes I have to). But overall, I think I'm doing better than I used to be with my money.
One of the articles from Get Rich Slowly discusses Experiences vs. Stuff and what usually leads to greater happiness. To no surprise, experiences lead to greater happiness but only if they are positive. If we have negative experiences, the sadder we'll be. Material items do give us happiness, but in a much shorter term. I see it like this: I still reflect on my vacation in Maryland as a fun time in my life, but the boots I love right now will most likely be out of fashion by next season.
I believe that overall I appreciate all experiences over material things. Even negative experiences I tend to take away something more long term than when I buy something. Especially since I tend to buy without thought or emotion. Either something looks good on me, or it doesn't. Either I can afford something or I can't. I don't save up for the hottest shoes or the coolest dress. I don't buy DVDs often, and I don't pay for my music. I have the same TV I had five years ago. I don't like stuff. I'm a pack rat, but only out of laziness not the need to be.
So Friday was example. I was looking forward to the experience of the restaurant. A small, North African place on the lower west side. It was expensive for us, but it was a one-time birthday thing so I figured it was worth it. The food was good, the belly dancers were entertaining, the hookah was a nice flavor, and the drinks were strong. It was a good birthday. It was better than getting a pair of earrings, or an ugly scarf for presents. It meant something to me. It was something different. It wasn't another night of us in someone's house, or in City Island, it was embracing being young and living in New York City. I want more experiences like that, I just need to find people who also appreciate experiences over things.
ETA: Oh! The other thing that bothers me: Kristi loves getting nice, name brand clothing, and she gets it at a good price because she works for Bloomingdale's. However, she only ever hang out with a bunch of rapscallions on City Island or is at home. What a waste! If you're going to aspire to be Carrie from Sex In The City then why are you hanging out with a bunch of Lost Boys from Neverland? They could give two fucks about what you're wearing; why put all this time and investment in a nice, fashionable wardrobe when you go out to not so fashionable places?
Saturday was nice. I slept in all day, baked, got baked, and ate Cajun food. I would go back to the Bayou any time.
Today was perfect because I smoked again, and went exploring in the park. It was one of the few times I can say I smoked, walked through the woods, and went through the woods and I didn't imagine any of it because I was high. Pretty sweet deal.
And that is pretty much my weekend folks. How was yours?
Friday night I had gone out for dinner with some friends for my bday. It was supposed to be a big party of 14, but 6 showed up. I wouldn't have minded so much, but people were bailing on me the day of. Like, srs? Don't be a dick, tell me sooner. And then Kristi got wasted, and was mad at me for not making it big deal that she was there because "She really couldn't afford it" and "It's not like I'm a Jew or anything sjnfj Jew dfjo8j Jew skjhfiu Jew". It got funny towards the end especially since all she could say was "Jew jew jew jew jew jew". I appreciate her being there and everything, and the first thing I toasted to when we sat down was "Thanks everybody for being here" so I don't know why she didn't think I didn't appreciate her. You want me to congratulate for following through on a promise you made me? Do you want me to genuflect and kiss your hand? Oh hell no. besides, her not having money is bullshit, because she's always shopping for really expensive shit like Louis Vuitton bags and these awesome shoes that are really beautiful. Not that I'm telling her how to spend her money, but don't tell me you're broke when you're obviously not.
I've been more conscience of my money, how I spend it, and I've been reading this one blog that I find particularly helpful (Get Rich Slowly) and just overall I'm trying to develop a healthier relationship with money. I've been saving half of my paycheck every week, it gos straight into my savings account. I just need to be more careful when I spend it and what I use. I hate having a credit card bill, but right now I have at least $300 on it. Now I'm gonna be spending the rest of the month paying it off in chunks until it's cleared (I hate carrying it over to the next month but sometimes I have to). But overall, I think I'm doing better than I used to be with my money.
One of the articles from Get Rich Slowly discusses Experiences vs. Stuff and what usually leads to greater happiness. To no surprise, experiences lead to greater happiness but only if they are positive. If we have negative experiences, the sadder we'll be. Material items do give us happiness, but in a much shorter term. I see it like this: I still reflect on my vacation in Maryland as a fun time in my life, but the boots I love right now will most likely be out of fashion by next season.
I believe that overall I appreciate all experiences over material things. Even negative experiences I tend to take away something more long term than when I buy something. Especially since I tend to buy without thought or emotion. Either something looks good on me, or it doesn't. Either I can afford something or I can't. I don't save up for the hottest shoes or the coolest dress. I don't buy DVDs often, and I don't pay for my music. I have the same TV I had five years ago. I don't like stuff. I'm a pack rat, but only out of laziness not the need to be.
So Friday was example. I was looking forward to the experience of the restaurant. A small, North African place on the lower west side. It was expensive for us, but it was a one-time birthday thing so I figured it was worth it. The food was good, the belly dancers were entertaining, the hookah was a nice flavor, and the drinks were strong. It was a good birthday. It was better than getting a pair of earrings, or an ugly scarf for presents. It meant something to me. It was something different. It wasn't another night of us in someone's house, or in City Island, it was embracing being young and living in New York City. I want more experiences like that, I just need to find people who also appreciate experiences over things.
ETA: Oh! The other thing that bothers me: Kristi loves getting nice, name brand clothing, and she gets it at a good price because she works for Bloomingdale's. However, she only ever hang out with a bunch of rapscallions on City Island or is at home. What a waste! If you're going to aspire to be Carrie from Sex In The City then why are you hanging out with a bunch of Lost Boys from Neverland? They could give two fucks about what you're wearing; why put all this time and investment in a nice, fashionable wardrobe when you go out to not so fashionable places?
Saturday was nice. I slept in all day, baked, got baked, and ate Cajun food. I would go back to the Bayou any time.
Today was perfect because I smoked again, and went exploring in the park. It was one of the few times I can say I smoked, walked through the woods, and went through the woods and I didn't imagine any of it because I was high. Pretty sweet deal.
And that is pretty much my weekend folks. How was yours?