Pretty Hot And Tempting
Random Fact# 6: One of my inspirations in life are the big girls.
In light of the excellent discussion from yesterday's post, I felt the need to repost the following entry:
You know who one of my inspirations are? Full figured women.
This isn't a joke and I say this in all seriousness. Big women are one of my inspirations.
Allow me to explain. We live in a society that if a woman isn't a size -2, then she's treated as a leper. This is a culture where people are villified for being full-figured or obese. Said culture associates weight with sloth, gluttony and greed. Said culture is responsible for putting pressure on young girls to starve and kill themselves; binging, purging and overdosing on pills in the hopes of attaining an unrealistic body type. Anyone who isn't killing themselves to get thin (or isn't thin already) is villified and persecuted.
Despite all of the rebuke, phat women (and by phat, I mean pretty hot and tempting) receive, they keep their heads up because no matter what lies or bile society spews, they know they are beautiful. They embrace every curve on their voluptuous bodies and they rock it to the fullest. When they go out, they dress to impress. They don't dress as it they're thin or petite, because they understand they have a different shape than their smaller sisters and they make sartorial choices which accentuates their hour glass shape.
Despite society's bigotry, they aren't afraid to show themselves in public: at a club, a museum or a gym. Yes gym. They don't work out to get thin but to stay healthy.
Many of them act, sing and model and no matter what the critics or naysayers may say, they keep it classy and they keep it positive because they know they are beautiful. They don't resent others who might be "society's ideal" because they genuinely love themselves and know they are blessed. And they won't allow anyone to take that away from them.
Growing up I was very self-conscious about my body. While I wouldn't dare compare my experience to that of the overweight (because there is no comparison), I will say that thin people catch more grief about their bodies than many might expect. I still have a few friends who think I have an eating disorder. Which was frustrating because I thought of myself as good-looking in a subtle yet charming boy next door kind of way, just as I do now. And granted I could be a bit biased....possibly....just a little bit. But being a thin guy and a POC, you're often not considered attractive or desirable. It wasn't until college that I finally came into my own and found myself getting checked out by girls and guys alike but even then I still had the baggage of insecurity and self doubt to contend with.
So when I see phat women do their thing in such an oppressive society, I'm humbled and moved to emulate their example.
As I've said before, we can learn a lot from the beautiful people.
You see beautiful people are confident in who they are and aren't concerned/threatened by others. They don't have to decry others to validate themselves because they know themselves that they are desirable and interesting and quite the gem. You see beautiful people treat the visually stunning and the physically repulsive with the same respect because they understand that beauty is a privilege, a blessing and not a right. Beautiful people are confident because they also know that there is more to them than their physical shells. They know this because they are constantly working at evolving and progressing. The beautiful people know that true beauty comes in all ages, genders, races, orientations and BODY TYPES.
So to Queen Latifah, Mo'Nique, Jessica Simpson, America Ferrara, Camryn Manheim, Tocarra Jones and all the other big girls holding it down, I thank you. Keep doing your thing and just know that you are my inspiration.
Oh and speaking of big love and sexy teddy bears, Joss Whedon...so having his baby.
ETA: Post of interest: http://neo-prodigy.livejournal.com/740531.html
In light of the excellent discussion from yesterday's post, I felt the need to repost the following entry:
You know who one of my inspirations are? Full figured women.
This isn't a joke and I say this in all seriousness. Big women are one of my inspirations.
Allow me to explain. We live in a society that if a woman isn't a size -2, then she's treated as a leper. This is a culture where people are villified for being full-figured or obese. Said culture associates weight with sloth, gluttony and greed. Said culture is responsible for putting pressure on young girls to starve and kill themselves; binging, purging and overdosing on pills in the hopes of attaining an unrealistic body type. Anyone who isn't killing themselves to get thin (or isn't thin already) is villified and persecuted.
Despite all of the rebuke, phat women (and by phat, I mean pretty hot and tempting) receive, they keep their heads up because no matter what lies or bile society spews, they know they are beautiful. They embrace every curve on their voluptuous bodies and they rock it to the fullest. When they go out, they dress to impress. They don't dress as it they're thin or petite, because they understand they have a different shape than their smaller sisters and they make sartorial choices which accentuates their hour glass shape.
Despite society's bigotry, they aren't afraid to show themselves in public: at a club, a museum or a gym. Yes gym. They don't work out to get thin but to stay healthy.
Many of them act, sing and model and no matter what the critics or naysayers may say, they keep it classy and they keep it positive because they know they are beautiful. They don't resent others who might be "society's ideal" because they genuinely love themselves and know they are blessed. And they won't allow anyone to take that away from them.
Growing up I was very self-conscious about my body. While I wouldn't dare compare my experience to that of the overweight (because there is no comparison), I will say that thin people catch more grief about their bodies than many might expect. I still have a few friends who think I have an eating disorder. Which was frustrating because I thought of myself as good-looking in a subtle yet charming boy next door kind of way, just as I do now. And granted I could be a bit biased....possibly....just a little bit. But being a thin guy and a POC, you're often not considered attractive or desirable. It wasn't until college that I finally came into my own and found myself getting checked out by girls and guys alike but even then I still had the baggage of insecurity and self doubt to contend with.
So when I see phat women do their thing in such an oppressive society, I'm humbled and moved to emulate their example.
As I've said before, we can learn a lot from the beautiful people.
You see beautiful people are confident in who they are and aren't concerned/threatened by others. They don't have to decry others to validate themselves because they know themselves that they are desirable and interesting and quite the gem. You see beautiful people treat the visually stunning and the physically repulsive with the same respect because they understand that beauty is a privilege, a blessing and not a right. Beautiful people are confident because they also know that there is more to them than their physical shells. They know this because they are constantly working at evolving and progressing. The beautiful people know that true beauty comes in all ages, genders, races, orientations and BODY TYPES.
So to Queen Latifah, Mo'Nique, Jessica Simpson, America Ferrara, Camryn Manheim, Tocarra Jones and all the other big girls holding it down, I thank you. Keep doing your thing and just know that you are my inspiration.
Oh and speaking of big love and sexy teddy bears, Joss Whedon...so having his baby.
ETA: Post of interest: http://neo-prodigy.livejournal.com/740531.html