Tis the season to be critical

[neliobelmont]

I was thinking about it on the way to school today, and came to the conclusion that Christmas gifts (and arguable and tradition with a exchange of gifts) is a waste of finances. Allow me to give a example to help explain

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[neliobelmont]

I think there a little bit of a misunderstanding... Just because a reason is selfish doesn’t mean it is bad. People all over the world do selfish things that help other people, a good example is various cooperations that create jobs, yet ultimately they are looking out for themselves.

If you objection to my conclusion is that it implies actions you take are selfish, then I can see how you could be upset. The problem is that you can't prove that you are doing it for a selfless reason. This is where the issue of trust and faith come in.

In the case of you and your party, I believe you are doing it for ultimately good reasons. It is true that you derive enjoyment from it, and so that is a possible explanation for the party taking place (ie your ulterior motive). Realistically, there are a lot of reasons for you to do it, friendship, enjoyment, tradition, and probably some others that I am not thinking of right now. The main thing I was addressing in my original statement was that I viewed things based solely on tradition as pointless, especially if things are of equivalent exchange.

An example would be of an adult who completely despises their family, yet they suffer through family gathers for no other reason that it is a gathering. In that case, their only motivation is tradition.

If you want to know my motivation (and ultimately selfish reason) for attending your party, it would be this:

I gain an excuse to be with people I derive enjoyment out of for an evening those being: you, your husband, Lowber, hopefully Waldo again, Vince, and Danny, all of which I get enjoyment out of talking and being around. There is also the motivation of food (YAY!), and probably drinks (Yay +). All of these could be considered Selfish reasons; however I don't think they are bad reasons. I am also under the impression that each person gives a donation for the party, which is perfectly reasonable given what you are supplying.

Even though I have selfish reasons for attending, I am (or was under the impression) that my presence was going to be bringing some type of enjoyment for others. I was also invited (or so I believe because I could see the original entry, and from what I have been told, all people who can see said entry are meant to have seen it), so I thought if I was wanted, I would come.

Your reasons, I could only guess at for holding your party are...
You see friends you don't see all that often; you enjoy making your friends happy... Perhaps you like to have guests over? There are a lot of reasons for doing this that really only you know.

As a final note, I didn't intend to upset anybody with my original statement. It seems that perhaps I offended you, which wasn't my goal in the matter. I was making an observation for my own person notation in the future, and frankly, I still believe what I said holds true. That is however, just my opinion. At this point in time I have little proof to back any of it up.