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Bob, my mom's boyfriend of 12 years or so, died yesterday after a very, very short struggle with cancer. Six weeks ago he wasn't even aware of anything wrong, and yesterday he spent the morning with labored breathing under heavy sedation, and passed away in the mid-afternoon without waking up. Along the way there were staggered reports of his progress, and virtually none of it was good news -- not that there would be with a diagnosis of incurable metastatic stage 4 lung cancer.
polymorphism and I were there in the morning just to give Mom a break so she could shower before dealing with family and red tape, and we left in the early afternoon only to be called back three hours later. LB came with us to join the show of support, and shamzmam gave a phone call for the same reason.
What gets me is just how fast this has all progressed. Seriously, the last time I saw him was Labor Day and aside from a lingering cough, nothing at all appeared to be wrong with him.
Bob was an unrelentingly sweet guy with a dopey sense of humor and an overriding attachment to his family, actual or chosen, second only to his need to help children. I only saw him a few times a year unless someone was moving, but I'm going to miss him. Not nearly as much as my mother, though, so I think my plans for the next several months at least are going to be rewritten so I can be available if she needs anything.
polymorphism and I were there in the morning just to give Mom a break so she could shower before dealing with family and red tape, and we left in the early afternoon only to be called back three hours later. LB came with us to join the show of support, and shamzmam gave a phone call for the same reason.
What gets me is just how fast this has all progressed. Seriously, the last time I saw him was Labor Day and aside from a lingering cough, nothing at all appeared to be wrong with him.
Bob was an unrelentingly sweet guy with a dopey sense of humor and an overriding attachment to his family, actual or chosen, second only to his need to help children. I only saw him a few times a year unless someone was moving, but I'm going to miss him. Not nearly as much as my mother, though, so I think my plans for the next several months at least are going to be rewritten so I can be available if she needs anything.