Waiting for the blinds guy!
OK, been in the new place for a month. I love it! But I am really ready for some privacy! The sliding glass doors are very big! I like it, but I want to be able to close the outside world off every now and then, ok every evening wehn it gets dark, I would like for the none neighbors not to be able to look into my living room. OK it is a thing for me, but it has been an interesting time.
But this morning I get the blinds and I can put up a real curtain rod and put them back up the right way.
OK so it is the little things in life. The cute guy from the construction office came in this morning and fixed the door jam and the shower doors. They tried to tell me that I had to use the front door on the back section....etc...like I didn't try everything to get the stupid thing to stop leaking all over the floor every time I take a shower! But they think they fixed it and I will try tomorrow and see if I don't need the towel in the corner. It would be nice. But one good thing... I have plenty of hand towels and wash cloths.
SO do I care if Bob lies to Shelia? Should I care if he has BS'ed his way into her life like he did mine? I should not care. I should just let her figure it out for herself. But I look at it like the way I think about why I wouldn't have an affair with a married man. Some women never think about the wife. I do, I would never consider doing it, It was done to me. How can women do that to each other? I guess the thinking is done between the legs, not in the heart or head.
SO do I just let things be? I knw that Bob has lied to SHeila and told her lots of BS, Does she think she is wife number 3 or wife number 4? I didn't find out that I was not going to be wife number 3 until we went to city hall to apply for the marriage license and you had to put down how many times you had been married, annulled, etc.... he put 1 and I said, "What about Kathy?" he jsut quickly siad, "no, that was not an officail marriage" What BS! I should have known then that I should have turned and run. But I did not. I should have.....it was the sign of things to come.
Why would a man lie about how many times they had been married and how many kids they had? It is so strange, but it was just a taste of things to come in the next 21 years. I thought I could change that man....
Hey Sheila, he won't ever quit smoking. He has treid, lied and spent more money on quitting smoking then I ever did on weight loss. But the man has always said that he enjoys smoking and that is how he feel and does not feel the need to quit. Now it seems he is telling everyone he has emphasema. Yeah, when they told my dad he had that in 1976 he quit smoking that day. If you were really told that, you would never pick up another smoke. If you were an intelligent person, especially with all the help you can get to quit. But Bob won't, at least not for very long. then he will lie, or try to and act so surprised when you confront him about it.
The sad part is that Shiela probably believes that he will quit....and she will have to put up with the smell and stench of him and his clothes and the house and car and she will get to the point that I was at, not wanting to be near him in any way, shape, or form because the smell is repulsive. But he will never get it. I could tell him why I didn't want to be near him, or kiss the ashtray mouth, and it did not matter, it was more important to smoke then have his family close. Does she think that will change? Poor woman. And for that reason I wish I could tell her the truth.
But anything I say will be taken as hostile. I will nt be like Deb and always be advasial, I have children and grand children with this man. Just cuz I don't want him I think it is great that he can find someone who does want him. Even if what she thinks is real is all fake. BUt the kids can tell her or she can find out for herself. She won't wnat to hear if from me anyway.
OK so I figured that out.
Carmen is having her party over the Thanksgiving break and I am going to the party in Fort Myers I will get to see all the kids and grands that day..... Should I take a new car? Yep!
Gotta go the blind guys are here.
But this morning I get the blinds and I can put up a real curtain rod and put them back up the right way.
OK so it is the little things in life. The cute guy from the construction office came in this morning and fixed the door jam and the shower doors. They tried to tell me that I had to use the front door on the back section....etc...like I didn't try everything to get the stupid thing to stop leaking all over the floor every time I take a shower! But they think they fixed it and I will try tomorrow and see if I don't need the towel in the corner. It would be nice. But one good thing... I have plenty of hand towels and wash cloths.
SO do I care if Bob lies to Shelia? Should I care if he has BS'ed his way into her life like he did mine? I should not care. I should just let her figure it out for herself. But I look at it like the way I think about why I wouldn't have an affair with a married man. Some women never think about the wife. I do, I would never consider doing it, It was done to me. How can women do that to each other? I guess the thinking is done between the legs, not in the heart or head.
SO do I just let things be? I knw that Bob has lied to SHeila and told her lots of BS, Does she think she is wife number 3 or wife number 4? I didn't find out that I was not going to be wife number 3 until we went to city hall to apply for the marriage license and you had to put down how many times you had been married, annulled, etc.... he put 1 and I said, "What about Kathy?" he jsut quickly siad, "no, that was not an officail marriage" What BS! I should have known then that I should have turned and run. But I did not. I should have.....it was the sign of things to come.
Why would a man lie about how many times they had been married and how many kids they had? It is so strange, but it was just a taste of things to come in the next 21 years. I thought I could change that man....
Hey Sheila, he won't ever quit smoking. He has treid, lied and spent more money on quitting smoking then I ever did on weight loss. But the man has always said that he enjoys smoking and that is how he feel and does not feel the need to quit. Now it seems he is telling everyone he has emphasema. Yeah, when they told my dad he had that in 1976 he quit smoking that day. If you were really told that, you would never pick up another smoke. If you were an intelligent person, especially with all the help you can get to quit. But Bob won't, at least not for very long. then he will lie, or try to and act so surprised when you confront him about it.
The sad part is that Shiela probably believes that he will quit....and she will have to put up with the smell and stench of him and his clothes and the house and car and she will get to the point that I was at, not wanting to be near him in any way, shape, or form because the smell is repulsive. But he will never get it. I could tell him why I didn't want to be near him, or kiss the ashtray mouth, and it did not matter, it was more important to smoke then have his family close. Does she think that will change? Poor woman. And for that reason I wish I could tell her the truth.
But anything I say will be taken as hostile. I will nt be like Deb and always be advasial, I have children and grand children with this man. Just cuz I don't want him I think it is great that he can find someone who does want him. Even if what she thinks is real is all fake. BUt the kids can tell her or she can find out for herself. She won't wnat to hear if from me anyway.
OK so I figured that out.
Carmen is having her party over the Thanksgiving break and I am going to the party in Fort Myers I will get to see all the kids and grands that day..... Should I take a new car? Yep!
Gotta go the blind guys are here.