I guess I have nothing truly useful to contribute, as hopelessly non-monogamous as I am. But in a poly relationship one can certainly still have issues with emotional intimacy, they just come out sounding funnier. (e.g. wyrdone's discomfort with my alone time with a friend: "You're just going to the game store and having dinner and talking, I feel left out and envious and I don't understand why. If you were having sex, that'd be different." Ah the irony, that I should be encouraged to lie about my sexual activities in order to go to the mall without guilt.) Or issues with physical intimacy for that matter. All you have with being poly is more honesty to work with and greater complexity that requires it. (And yes, to reference your earlier poster, two sets of partially combined two-person accounts are about to drive me mad -- I'm now officially doing taxes for The Whole Frelling Mess just because I don't think anyone else could manage them properly.)
Back to the topic... Polyamory, I realize after spending much time online with people I would once have described as much kinkier than I am, is really odd in that it's a philosophical and moral position. It has nothing to do with whether one's actually shagging a bunch of folk, it has everything to do with which side of a logical / philosophical / moral argument one would support. The "getting laid a lot and not caring if it's moral or not" position is far more common than polyamory itself. Along with those who do it because it's immoral, and the really huge category -- those who don't do it, but fantasize about it regularly, and I leave you to hypothesize what percentage of the human population that is.
Back to the topic... Polyamory, I realize after spending much time online with people I would once have described as much kinkier than I am, is really odd in that it's a philosophical and moral position. It has nothing to do with whether one's actually shagging a bunch of folk, it has everything to do with which side of a logical / philosophical / moral argument one would support. The "getting laid a lot and not caring if it's moral or not" position is far more common than polyamory itself. Along with those who do it because it's immoral, and the really huge category -- those who don't do it, but fantasize about it regularly, and I leave you to hypothesize what percentage of the human population that is.
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