i honestly think toronto is completely made up of people from the prairies and vancouver. i partly grew up here and all the lefty people i know are from elsewhere, except a handful of friends i kept in touch with (the rest are lawyers in the suburbs. maybe that's it--everyone actually from toronto lives in the suburbs).
I was chatting with a friend about our experiences moving to Toronto and the politico lefty grad community, all the political stances, the incestuous interrelationships, the competing affinities, the racism and patriarchy, the polyamory networks. Sometimes we assumed affinity and closeness and trust without letting it develop over time, which had consequences. We were talking about how looking back its taken us literally at least four years to start figuring out what relationships we want to build and how, through all those years of socializing with many folks. I don't know what it is about this social environment, but there's always a lot going on underneath.
a few months ago I was complaining to my brother-in-law that I wanted more close friends and he laughed at me. he told me to list my friends and inevitably there were more than I realized, and then he asked me what i considered closeness. i said someone knowing how i feel. he said most people are lucky if they have one or two people like that in their lives, that's a primo relationship. whoa, I thought. if you buy into that perspective then being able to call four poeple late at night is huge. :) Anyway, i'm always stunned by the sheer number of people you know in Toronto. rabfish
I was chatting with a friend about our experiences moving to Toronto and the politico lefty grad community, all the political stances, the incestuous interrelationships, the competing affinities, the racism and patriarchy, the polyamory networks. Sometimes we assumed affinity and closeness and trust without letting it develop over time, which had consequences. We were talking about how looking back its taken us literally at least four years to start figuring out what relationships we want to build and how, through all those years of socializing with many folks. I don't know what it is about this social environment, but there's always a lot going on underneath.
a few months ago I was complaining to my brother-in-law that I wanted more close friends and he laughed at me. he told me to list my friends and inevitably there were more than I realized, and then he asked me what i considered closeness. i said someone knowing how i feel. he said most people are lucky if they have one or two people like that in their lives, that's a primo relationship. whoa, I thought. if you buy into that perspective then being able to call four poeple late at night is huge. :) Anyway, i'm always stunned by the sheer number of people you know in Toronto. rabfish
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