And if I need a rhythm, it'll be to my heart I listen, if it don't get me too far wrong.
I can't believe it took me five/six dates to realise
- When a good friend tells you a guy's a dick, take heed and listen.
- Men think sex is an inevitability. And when a guy uses a variation of the line "Your place or mine?", he's not, I repeat not, a good guy.
- Being "attracted" to a guy is not the same as fancying him, thinking about him constantly, heart hammers when you see him, butterflies in your stomach, zsa-zsa-zu, shazam, electricity, spark, connection. If you realise this on your second date, drop it as soon as you can. I need more than intelligence and faked gentlemanliness if I'm to be hooked.
- I want a kind man with a good heart and a strong backbone. I'm pretty sure I deserve such a man. When a man says "Say hello to needy friends for me" instead of "I'm here if you ever want a chat" when you express concern and stress over a friend's problems, he's not kind, he's not generous. He's a rude, insensitive prick. Don't lie to yourself about it just because you like the attention and he appears to be a gent.
- Even though it's been a while since a bloke appreciated you for more than your looks, don't go for the first guy that comes along who gives you attention for both how you look and who you are.
- Be honest. Most importantly, with yourself. I cannot pretend to be comfortable with something when I'm really not. It's not being true to who I am.
- I cannot, cannot, go out with a guy simply because it's "fun" or "nice to be taken out". I just can't. Where's the point if there's no shazam? I wind up feeling guilty, not a good situe.
- I also cannot go out with a guy just because he likes me. I have to be selfish sometimes.
- Enough whining, I have incredible friends who talk to me till 3am about shit like this, who bring me pizza and call me after my dates, knowing I'll need to chat. I have people who will always be there to fight my corner. I don't need a guy to be happy, whole or complete, I've known this since I was 12.
- There's no rush.
Someone tell me to shut up?